Thoughts on not having a full open bar at the wedding? We’ll be providing welcome drinks the day before, a signature drink and champagne during cocktail hour, wine during dinner and champagne with cake cutting. The cost is really creeping on us and we’re considering giving a 2 drink voucher to guests during the dancing part of the reception. Will it be considered tacky?

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I think a bit tacky, to be honest. Can you limit an open bar to beer wine and soda?

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i definitely think it’s tacky. you can easily do beer and wine during the reception instead to keep costs down! that’s better than vouchers IMO and make sure your guests are aware ahead of time

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Cut the champagne - it gets poured ahead of time and ends up flat by the time you cut the cake. Most people will have their own drinks at that point, so it’ll go to waste.

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I think it’s fine as long as you let people know ahead of time. We are just doing two signature drinks (that can be premixed in jugs) and then beer and wine.

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It’s tacky. Find other places to cost cut.

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Beer, wine and maybe a signature drink if you can swing it. Do not do drink tickets

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Cut the welcome drinks the day before if you need to.

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Can you just not do the different drink stages and instead have beer and wine?

Everything else besides the ceremony is just a party!!! People are there to celebrate you. If anyone is actually upset that they can’t get “free drinks” all night is not there for the right reason.

In fact, I bet you if asked your guests if they’d rather a full bar or a 2-drink policy in order to save you guys the financial burden, I’m sure most, if not all, would gladly forego it.

Idk about this, your guests don’t travel, get a hotel, and buy you weddings gifts to come pay for their drinks

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I would negotiate this better. I don’t know what kind of drinkers are going to this wedding but what you describe sounds like plenty of alcohol. Agree with limiting to beer and wine and champagne and that’s it. The voucher concept is tacky for sure.

Tickets are extremely tacky. Even if it’s just beer and wine, that’s totally ok!!

Can you just make more of the signature drinks and use those for the reception and if people want something else they go to the bar?

Tacky for sure. I would have not done welcome drinks and dinner wine instead of limiting drinks during reception IMO.

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