To use an analogy many of us are familiar with… Practicing law at a firm as a person of color feels like being the guest at a cookout where your friend was invited, and you were just brought along. Your friend knows everyone, feels at home, and moves through the space with ease. But as their guest, you don’t know anyone, and the atmosphere can feel awkward, isolating, and even unwelcoming.

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Yes.

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Sure, DM me happy to help answer any questions.

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Create your own spaces…. exciting!

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I’m here for you! I am part of an entrepreneur group and we are creating our own space. We are looking for an attorney. We have all kinds of specialist and we just learn and support each other.

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Matriculate, gain expertise, obtain of a mastery of something and then focus like a laser on courting your own clients. If you bring the meat to the cookout, you will make friends fast.

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Spot on

I felt the same way at first when I was in high school and had to attend my stepdad’s family events and was one of only white persons there -but then once I started talking to people it felt more comfortable. I’m white though so it was the other way around…

This sounds like imposter syndrome. In fact, you were invited, even if you doubt the invitation was meant for you. Regardless, you’re at the cookout. Grab a plate and a drink and post up. Introduce yourself and make some friends.

Nah… not imposter syndrome. I know I belong from the standpoint of ability, talent, experience, etc. I’m not at all self conscious about that. I’m referring to the environment, culture, and passive-aggressive (and occasionally overtly aggressive) nature of it all.

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