Today was my baby’s first day of daycare. Instead of running errands and enjoying the time for myself, I (FTM) just went back home, sat in the quiet, and missed him. I'm back to work next week, and I'm wondering: how do working moms find "me time" that isn't just a shower or their commute? Will I ever have time for the gym again? How do you balance it all?

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You will find time for yourself again mama but I won’t lie, it may be a while 😅 you need to get comfortable having others (partner, family, babysitters) watch your kiddo(s) for a night out but I also take plenty of smaller breaks during the workday/daycare hours for myself like nails, facial, shopping etc. Pretty much every other Friday afternoon I’m taking a couple hours for myself.

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I’m two years in and haven’t found “me time” yet and now I’m having another… 🙃

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After kids, chores is ME time. Errands is like you're going to a bar. Going to Walgreens to pick up medication has never felt so exciting. Target parking lot pick ups feel like I am hiding from kids.

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Mine are 8, 6 and 4 and me time is still chores/exercise/showering alone 🙃

You have to prioritize it. You have to want it and plan for it and it is so much more complicated than before baby… and while you are doing it you have to really be present and not just think about your baby.

And this is why I personally have not had true ‘me time’ in 5 years.

One day at a time. I think what you chose to do today was a great first step. It’s a big change. Take it gradually. You will have time for the gym again. Still working on the balance of it all (my oldest is 9).

Do you have a significant other? If so, start having those conversations now. I'm 14 years into being a mom and our marriage counselor reminds me every week that I need to take care of myself more. I love my kids more than life, and I thought I was still taking care of myself enough....sometimes I probably was, but not enough on average. My husband has his own issues, and usually I was just trying to keep the peace and do everything myself. Talk to your significant other. Make sure you both get breaks every week. Real breaks, not showering. Make sure you also continue dating each other, even if it's something small at home after the kids are in bed. As far as going to the gym....that's up to you. I have a Bodi on Demand subscription and do much better fitting in home workouts and running/walking in my neighborhood.

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