Where have you found success in sober dating? 28m

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High risk high reward but I married my wife through AA

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I would totally agree with you honestly…. I think 10% of people in AA are good people …

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40M. What I’ve come to realize, is that I seem to attract (and be attracted to) people who are as healthy/unhealthy as I am.

It gets realllllly tricky to date because codependency runs rampant in folks who have addictions. And there are pitfalls like “trauma bonding” and “obsession being confused for love” and “enabling/relapse”.

I find it best to go slow, try not to hurt anyone, learn from mistakes, and communicate communicate communicate.

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So far I (27) have not had much success 😂

I think most people in their 20s pretty much drink and drug all the time still or at least all the people I know and have met.

I've had some okayish experiences dating like 15-20 years older than me. I think in the 40s people get less obsessed with drinking and partying 24/7.

Success in volume? Yes. Meaningful success? No. I am the problem and giving up the drink has not solved everything. 27M

Lmao no, what a bold jump. It’s just my baggage, makes me not trust people or get to close.

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I’ve seen it work for other people. Im in my 40’s now. I’m at the point where I think I’m just supposed to be single.

21 years.

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