Had a second date planned for tonight, she text me this morning and has a high fever! Should I send a care package?

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No, it might just be an excuse. Unless you two have been talking super consistently, I’d just let her be. Ball in her court - she should suggest a different day to meet up

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We talk regularly

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I’d go with the standard, “let me know if you need anything” and check on her tomorrow. If she’s still ill, let her know you’d be happy to drop some things at her door or concierge, or Instacart it over so she knows there’s no pressure to actually see one another face to face.

All this assuming that you’ve actually been to her place already. I wouldn’t suggest you offer if you don’t already know where she lives.

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Haven't been inside her place but did walk her back to her place after the first date.

Before second date, no. If you had been dating for a couple months, then yes.

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I think you should. You’ll stand out

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Abs not (as a woman). Its too soon and comes on too strong

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Omg that is extremely sweet! I would also wait and see if it’s an excuse. I’d send a care package if you guys start dating exclusively or something, not for a second date.

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Don't just send it. I had something similar where she caught covid, I just asked if she wanted me to send her some meds and she said no. However, she essentially texted me daily while I'm quarantine.

I agree with the others, she knows it's her fault (whether it is intentional or unintentional) she knows it's her responsibility to try and at the very least suggest a new date when she's healthy again. Only she knows when she'll be healthy again.

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Do it. It will be so sweet and thoughtful especially if you like her

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I wouldn’t. It could be an excuse. Tell her to let you when she feels better and to let you know if she needs anything.

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Definitely yes, if my bf ever did this for me I’d be so touched (spoiler: he hasn’t)

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I agree with the above - I wouldn't send a care package for a second date. Just say you hope she gets better soon and that you'll make up for it with something fun planned when she gets better.

With just one date, I’d be hesitant. Could be an excuse. But if you’ve been talking consistently, maybe not. I would let her know you hope she feels better and maybe ask if she’d like you to send her soup or something via Grubhub. Like “this pho place I know has a pho ga that always makes me feel better when I’m sick. I’d be happy to get some delivered to you if you’d like”

Our date was going to be a great ramen spot lol

Just ask lol..

If a guy did this to me, I’d be head over heels but I don’t know the nature of the relationship if she is using it as an excuse or not so

Yes! Definitely do it. I’d keep dating you. In the off chance they are lying, they should feel pretty guilty you did something nice and may want to continue seeing you.

Im not saying make an extensive care package or anything like that. Even just bringing cough drops and cold medicine would be a nice gesture and make me think this person is kind and cares. Honestly I was thinking this scenario is more similar to bringing someone a cup of coffee.

Wtf?? I can’t even get them to text for a second date.

I would be head over heels if someone did that for me.

No, you haven’t even been on a second date. When she gets better, you go on the second date. If you wanna act like a SO, you’ll actually need to be the SO. Not just someone you’ve been on one date with.

What did you do OP?!?! How is she feeling??

Too late now to give my thoughts (though I will anyway)…If you’re talking regularly I think it’s a very sweet gesture to send her a bowl of ramen like you would have had for your date. It’s cute, not expensive, and shows you’ve paid attention.

If she’s not the one you’ve spent a few bucks on a bowl of soup. If she is the one it’s a great story and memory.

She's feeling way better. Didn't end up sending anything.

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