While I’ve been sober now over 2 years, I’m wallowing in loneliness and lack of purpose. This labor day I will have been single 4 years. I’m a 42 yo gay male. Having no family or significant other at this age takes a toll on my mental health. I don’t think most people know how alone I feel. Sobriety has severely limited dating options. I also don’t want to settle. Seems to be harder to settle in sobriety. Not sure I’d get sober again, but having done the hard work I’m gonna keep going ODAAT.

Looking to sublet an apartment for me and my partner in May. Any suggestions on where to look?

Any advice on how to find new creative interns in NYC? We aren’t a big agency but we have some great opportunities!

Is the Russia / Ukraine tension causing this downtrend ?

Is there any way to switch projects in HSBC(HTI), how easy/tough it will be to asking for release from current project and join any new Internal Vacancy

So physically and mentally tired, I don't know how long I can keep up with work anymore. Told my senior management that I'm burning out, only to be blessed with another secondment. I now have two going at the same time, plus other client work, new business work, and managing scroundels.

What is the current industry norm package for 10+ total yrs. Exp. in risk management ,people manager. AVP or VP.
MBA from Tier 1 college
BTech from Tier 2 college.

Alternatively , what kind of jobs in financial sector are paying 45 lpa + for above candidate profile.

Hi fishes, Any openings for functional BAs? Looking for Solution and Strategy related positions. Yoe. 6+yrs Trying to transition into a Solution and Strategy Consultant, any suggestions or reference appreciated? PwC Accenture Morgan Stanley Deloitte EY Infosys

What is everyone’s favorite cold storage wallet and why? I’m thinking of going to with ledger.

Hi Fish, this is regarding the ITS Accreditation Program. Is anyone attending the same in Mumbai. Have a few query

Are puns always bad? I like them as cheat codes for making boring things slightly more entertaining. I don’t want to spend hours thinking for a line for a social post we are just doing to fill up a content calendar

For those of you who left the Midwest for a FAANG company like Apple… was the move to CA worth it? Have an opportunity and it’s just really difficult wrapping my head around the cost and standard of living, being far from friends and family, etc.

Best lunch around Truist park?

AML consultants: Anyone have CAMS? If so, do you have any study tips? And do you really have to send a copy of your diploma??

What’s the worst state you have lived in the states ? WV has my vote!

I told myself I wasn’t going to do it. Re-assured myself I wasn’t going to do it. Told myself you’d know what would happen and still ended up gambling away a bunch of money I know I couldn’t blow. I don’t understand.

I know everyone will have different answers for this but how did you know it was time to get sober? I think it might be time for me to find a new job and pursue sobriety, but I don't feel like I'm a rock bottom which is the only time I've ever seen people really commit to it (my father). Apathy isn't the right word but I just kind of feel numb about everything and I think being sober would maybe help.

I buy things I don’t need and don’t know how to fix it. I always blamed it on “drunk buying” but I’ve been sober for 355 days and it persists. I know I buy things in an effort to fill a void and try to feel something so I buy “things” but it doesn’t help and I know it. Any thoughts or suggestions?

Problem gambler here having to deal with multiple payday loans. Does anyone have any advice on how to handle? Been in a situation with pay day loans in the past? Any guidance would be great.

Hello to all,
If you need someone to save from addiction we can try.
Just contact me

Some good advice from my sponsor as I go into this stressful week:

- Invite your Higher Power into the meetings with you
- Be your authentic self
- Be there to help others

I am sex addict. I have to continue to remind myself that I am always in recovery. Had a major acting out a month ago, lost my fiancé and just taking one day at a time. That’s all I can do. Just remind myself so I don’t stop working

I messed ups no need help. Idk where to turn.

Just taking the opportunity to get current. Sober 3 years and 10 months. This past couple weeks have been stressful and my mind slipped into fantasizing about my drug of choice. Last week I flipped out at some of my wife's family. I did an amends and I think time will heal this one. It's all up to HP. Although I have neglected my morning practice this week, I'm practicing self compassion with positive self talk.

Downloaded the “Days” app. No frills, no extras. Just a number staring you in the face. I’ve made it almost habitual to open and check... even multiple times a day when I know the day counter hasn’t changed, but it’s helping and encouraging. Each day is a sense of accomplishment and a win over the pull of my own thoughts. Forcing my willpower into further restraint. 10 days strong so far.

Went for a pre-employment drug test yesterday. They never asked me if I was on any medications. I had to ask them and was told "oh yeah, just put any you may think make a difference in this text box." I put Xanax, Flexeril, and gabapentin. All of which are prescribed and used as directed. Now I'm terrified that I should have put ALL my meds, to including my psych meds. I've been sober over 12 years and never touched drugs (just booze) but I'm having a full blown panic attack.

Hey all, just claiming my seat on a Saturday night. Was just struggling and another comment helped me get back to a healthy space. If anyone is struggling tonight, know there’s one fellow here thinking of you

Have any of you found it worthwhile to think about why you are an addict? Care to share?

Covid has been hard. March 2029- December 2020 I drank a lot to cope without realizing it. January- March I didn't realize I was depressed. March I came to terms with increase and ongoing suicidal ideation and needed help.

I went into a intensive outpatient program (IOP) which has been super helpful.

During the beginning of covid I drank every day and in a great deal. January it was a "dry" month which was hard the first week but overall great.

March 2021 realized I'm clinically depressed.

I joined a new team and have noticed something off with my Director over the last months (slurring speech, no show to calls or even full days of work). I finally asked a colleague about it today because I’m concerned about my Director. She confirmed that she’s noticed the same over the last few years, but no one ever says anything. In confidence she told me she can often smell alcohol. How can I help? I feel helpless. I’ve already lost someone to addiction and I can’t ignore this. Any advice?

Social media! I find myself mindless scrolling through LinkedIn and responding to random shit. I put the phone down and pick it up again without thinking.

Has anyone ever messed up at a company party because of alcohol?

First in-person retreat in a while coming up and first for me at this particular firm. Several people have mentioned that much of the bonding etc happens while drinking. I am newly sober and now worried about being in this environment, any tips for making it through the weekend? Similar experiences?

Have been sober for many years but currently relapsed and am in a downward spiral. I’m close to losing my family but I can’t seem to get my head together. Feel like I need a few months out, maybe take some time off work… has anyone done similar and did it help?