Would love some tips about starting work post maternity leave. I’m a FTM and returning to work soon and am a jumble of anxiety. I can’t imagine my baby being taken care of by anyone but me and coupled with long hours/stress idk how I’m going to provide the same attention and care I’ve been able to give her while on leave and also give my 100% at work

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You aren’t alone. I am in the same boat soon and already have these same thoughts.

What type of work do you do? There are some jobs that are easier than others to make it work, but the reality for most is that you have two options - you get help (family, nanny, daycare), or you leave your job. It’s incredibly unfair for your baby to be working a full time, high stress job, and not have sufficient care and attention to them.

Recommend reading The 4th trimester and talking to someone about your anxieties.

My hubby and I work from home and we opted for a nanny. We are still around throughout the day and check-in while we go get coffee/snacks. We have cameras in common areas and we worked our way up to letting her take walks and now take trips with our little guy. (After 10 months of building trust).

We have friends who chose daycare and it worked for them as well. Choose the option that works best for you. ❤️

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