Would you rather be friend ghosted or friend broken up with?

Anyone with anxious attachment tendencies? Going through a breakup and I keep thinking about how I pushed him away and then am down on myself, replaying memories in my mind. At the end of the day, I think we were a bad match from the beginning and misaligned, but so hard not to beat myself over my anxious attachment during my relationship

I ended my relationship of 6 years about 3 months ago bc he said he might regret not having kids later down the line. we were always on the fence but I’m leaning towards no. It hurts so much having to walk away from an otherwise perfect relationship. Wish this was easier…

Partners with kids and a working spouse, how do you manage? Is it realistic for both people in the relationship to work full time long term? How do you keep marriage going and career progressing?

Best self-care tips for dealing with loneliness/sadness this time of year? This is my first Christmas without my mom and it just feels like nothing will ever be the same again 😭. If you’ve lost a parent can you give me advice on getting through the holidays? Being a parentalish figure to my students is both healing and heartbreaking.

Do you have many LGBT friends and do you necessarily care if you do or don’t? I have one gay friend who I catch up with occasionally and I think my husband has two. I never really cared either way about it, however I feel like I’m at that point where you primarily make new friends through existing ones, and they are having children and making other “parent” friends. Between that and living in a SFH neighborhood in the suburbs, I’ve changed my viewpoint over the last few months.

Anybody else feel overwhelming loneliness?


6 months ago the woman I love left me after 6 years (pre McK) and I don’t think I’ll be able to recover. I absolutely love my job and it’s the only sense of comfort I have - but I finally realize that happiness truly come from factors outside professional success (atleast in my case)
Idk what makes it so difficult: we never fought, we had everything we ever wanted ($ wise), each family loved each other like their own- hope I eventually recover

Never tell your wife to calm down. That won’t go well for you.

Instead, turn it into a question like “does someone need a time out?” Much less confrontational that way.

My partner of over 1 year dropped a comment that made me feel very uneasy. He said that he loves everything about me but wishes I was a bit more socially active. I love being on my own, reading, watching series, FaceTiming friends and family abroad. I moved to London 2 years ago and because of the pandemic it has been hard to establish solid relationships here. Am I being too much for feeling hurt and insecure suddenly about this or is my partner a bit of a dick for making that comment.

Anyone else stuck here without family? I'm in SF and my roommates are going home to their families tonight and i'm going to be alone, it's going to be a long 3 weeks..... 😭😭😭

Been questioning my friendship with a group of girls. Really close to them before (been hanging out since high school), but all they do is gossip, shop, and talk about superficial things, and I just started realizing how our interests are different too in the recent years. When is it time to drop the friendship if you feel like the odd one out?

My GF and I are dating for 2.5 yrs , She met an office colleague (he has a GF) recently who she initiated a friendship with. I feel that they interact a lot and I'm a little worried of her getting too close to him. A day ago she asked him for lunch and they were out for almost 4-5 hrs. When I expressed how I felt she keeps saying there's nothing going on. I feel that when start to get emotionally close to some other guy than SO then it's not a good sign in relationship. Am I overthinking? contd.

Has anyone been through a situation that you were in a terrible relationship ( stress,anger, fights, swears, physical abuse, ego clashes) and how did you resolve it? Some might have worked on and stayed in the relationship and some might have broken up. I am looking for answers from both sides. How did you stay/work on it and how did you break up and move on? Me and my partner have strong feelings for eachother and are almost inseparable despite going through so much.

One of ex’s friends who is I met twice, has been in touch, him and his wife, like commenting on some of my posts occasionally (we are just fb friends and IG friends). I never saw them since. Then the friend texts asking if I am seeing someone and that he wants to set me up with someone. He felt awkward doing that, I thanked him for thinking of me, but then he said we all told your ex he is an idiot for letting you go and they asked my ex it they could still be touch with me and he said yes.

Heading into the EY office in Boston tomorrow, have been working out of a 2 bed room 1,200 SqFt apartment with a son (now 3.5 years old) for the last year and a half. Can’t wait!

Girlfriend of 3 years cheated on me right before we were supposed to leave the state and move in together. We broke up about 4 months ago. I couldn’t demonize her, so I’m still struggling with processing it and idk what to do. I’ve been looking into therapy, but I can only do online which leaves me hesitant. Any advice would be appreciated.

A guy who is claiming to be in love with me (a black woman and immigrant), is a conservative (pro-trump, anti-gun laws, denies that there is racism etc). Are those red flags to make me cut him off?

Why do we always tell people “Be the best version of yourself before starting a relationship?”
I feel this is wrong…first, if you’re someone who constantly wants to be better, this doesn’t work. Also, what happens when you’re going through things and you’re not the best version? What happens is…the going gets tough and then one person leaves the other.

34 and noticing that all my friends are friends of convenience - ppl from work, friends of friends, or ppl I’ve met randomly. How do I cultivate more deliberate friendships based on shared interests?

My SO and I are contemplating pursuing MBAs simultaneously; is it advisable? Any personal experiences to share?

How can I make friends in Chicago?

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I have 4 years of total experience with hands on experience in CMS and SQL and little bit of power bi. Now I am looking to explore whole new field of Salesforce as it's in demand right now and I am not enjoying my current role. I want your experience about switching a field and how difficult it is after that much of experience and is this a good idea?
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Hey all, having issues with interviewing this year. I’ve been passed over every opportunity I really want and I’m unsure how to regroup and move forward. I’m really trying to break into method development roles and I haven’t had the opportunity to do so with my analytical experience. A lot of my HPLC and LCMS experience is with already established methods. Any tips?

What office does everyone workout of?

Anyone else bracing for layoffs? I'm getting super worried, gonna refresh the resume and get my name out there.

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Has anyone switched from manual to automation testing? How was your experience?

I’m currently doing IR work but would like to do something more on the technical side (ie: more forensics or technical). Does anyone know if forensics firms or any firm that offers a mix ? I have both a Cipp-Us and cyber/ Sec+ certs.

Hi Sharks, i am working in Deloitte USI as Oracle fuctional consultant and looking for a switch in Pure Consulting .. can anyone please provide referral? i will share my CV.. have knowledge of SQL and Tableau and advanced excel .. also... have prior work ex with EY for 2 years and did MBA from Tier -2 college in consulting role. total workex-3 years.

Is 22lpa fixed a good offer from a product company for Ebs SCM with YOE 9 yrs.Role is techno functional and relevant exp is 7 yrs.

what is the average salary i can expect for oracle scm ebs and fusion profiles for 7+ yrs of exp

Can anyone provide insight into medical affairs? Would love to learn more about the day to day as a senior consultant

If I joined verizon in June / July 2022 would I be eligible for hike in Jan 2023 / March 2023 ? What's the hike percentage like ?

Producers: what do you wanna see (or not see) when visiting a sales rep’s website?

How much salary/CTC to ask for Manager in technology role in one of the big 4s?

So working on an aging monolith system and trying to put a whitepaper together to explain the reasoning for transition to a headless setup.

Starting with absolute basic of separation of concerns and git branching projects and cloud / blob hosting for imagery on a cdn.

These are the quick wins I think.

Just looking for some insight if anyone has any experience on something like this. The backend is java IBM I series and the front end makes me want to cry.