Anyone with anxious attachment tendencies? Going through a breakup and I keep thinking about how I pushed him away and then am down on myself, replaying memories in my mind. At the end of the day, I think we were a bad match from the beginning and misaligned, but so hard not to beat myself over my anxious attachment during my relationship

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Totally am with you on anxious attachment. Keep in mind there is a reason you were like that. Some is you but absolutely right that a part of it was them or the relationship. If your partner can’t create space for you to be less anxious attachment then how will you grow?

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I relate 😅 Sorry you’re going through a breakup! Sending you a virtual hug 💜

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This is so true. Thank you both!

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Going through this right now as well. Started reading Attached when we were still together, but probably should have asked my Avoidant ex to read it as well. Currently listening to On Attachment podcast and learning a lot more so I can be more aware of my triggers for my next relationship.

How are you doing OP

Thank you for checking in! In hindsight, I think the anxious attachment thoughts at that time put me in the “bargaining stage” , and that was hard. I’m not ready to think about how my next relationship might look and it isn’t helpful to reevaluate my old relationship. Just trying to focus on healing through with friendships and personal growth for now! Will cross the anxious attachments thing later lol

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