Has anyone been through a situation that you were in a terrible relationship ( stress,anger, fights, swears, physical abuse, ego clashes) and how did you resolve it? Some might have worked on and stayed in the relationship and some might have broken up. I am looking for answers from both sides. How did you stay/work on it and how did you break up and move on? Me and my partner have strong feelings for eachother and are almost inseparable despite going through so much.

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If there is physical abuse you need to exit the relationship and each need to get some serious therapy. Abuse is not acceptable in any loving relationship.

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Draw the line at physical and emotional abuse. This is not a situation that can “work itself out”, you need to leave and never look back, get restraining order, and seek counseling so you can move forward and have healthier relationships w/ the right people in the future.

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Normally I’d say leave if there is physical abuse. That being said if there is physical abuse coming from both sides and you both agree that it is a problem that you want to work around, I’d recommend a professional

I am in the same situation right now 😞 Let me know how you resolve this situation. It’s so hard 😞

Those strong feelings are called trauma bonding and codependency. Don't stay in this. I tried for years. It won't work. Get out and get help.

My 4 year long toxic relationship is probably the single regret I have in life (and I don’t really have any regrets). It turned me into someone I wasn’t. After 1 year, I was going to break it off but ended up staying through abuse, cheating, gaslighting, etc. I did my best to be supportive, communicate, and love him but it was not reciprocated or ever enough. It was always “my fault” he did something and everything was taken out on me. I finally broke up with him and moved states because I felt that I was in danger. I briefly spoke to him on and off a few months following because I did not want to get hurt/him to hurt himself. I cared for and loved him very much but in the end it was most important to choose me. I truly found myself again and was able to learn how to value my kind heart, my boundaries, and create my own happiness.

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