A guy who is claiming to be in love with me (a black woman and immigrant), is a conservative (pro-trump, anti-gun laws, denies that there is racism etc). Are those red flags to make me cut him off?

This is an emotional dump rn. It may be lack of social interaction but I'm really frustrated lately. I feel like I lost last 2.5 years of my life with ongoing lockdowns and job instability in the first half of the pandemic. I was 28 turing 31. I get good dates but -ve self talk
Inflation is high & coming from a low income family where you're supposed to help your parents is driving me nuts. Although I make a good salary, after rent, car insurance, there isn't much left (unfav currency exchange)

I am 34/f pakistani widow with kids...why are desi guys scared of marrying widows and women with kids?

Recos for a vacation with my SO in mid-novemember. Thinking of hikes or any other outdoor activities (minus skiing). Can take a flight fwiw. Thank you

Anyone with anxious attachment tendencies? Going through a breakup and I keep thinking about how I pushed him away and then am down on myself, replaying memories in my mind. At the end of the day, I think we were a bad match from the beginning and misaligned, but so hard not to beat myself over my anxious attachment during my relationship

I was devastated when I realized I had to cut my twin sister and even my mom to some degree out of my life in order to have peace of mind. It makes me sad I feel better without their burdens. ☹️

How do people make friends here? I have the ones i grew up with and a couple I made in the last couple of years (neighbors/through mutual friends) but I generally find that people here just stick with their social circles

First-year teacher looking for some back to school advice/tips. Meet the teacher night is tomorrow. What are some things you do the first week for your littles?

Help!
Planning on moving to London from New York for with 9mo baby in January. Would love some advice on the following topics:
1) Areas to look for affordable housing in a good area - potentially 2bed within the 1500 range?
2) would you recommend owning a car or would public transport be sufficient?
3) How does child care work (nanny/daycare)?
4) Is there an option to hire help for regular cooking, household chores, etc? If yes, what are the prices charged?
5) how does pay work with a transfer?

I'm a product engineer and it's hard to turn off work mode at the end of the day, I think of how products *should* be packaged when I'm shopping and can't understand why my wife doesn't care 🤷

Boyfriend and I have been dating for ~1.5 years and we still only spend weekends together. I want to move in together at the 2 year mark but bf thinks it’s too soon... just feels our relationship is stagnant and not going anywhere. Any thoughts from ppl who’ve gone through similar situations?

Is it weird that I feel ready to have children as a 23 year old?

Does anyone have any tips to maximize miles when getting married? We currently only have one card that is the same. Does it make sense to add her to all of my other cards as an authorized user? Any tips appreciated

I work with a classroom of Middle School ED students. One student, who I worked with the year before, has changed alot over the year. Last year (pre COVID), she had a good head on her shoulders and I thought I had good rapor with her. But over that period of isolation, she tried to commit suicide.

All year, she was much more withdrawn and ALWAYS on her phone! At the end of the I was 'beat up by her - she really knocked my glasses off.

How should I approach her in the upcoming year?

Stupid Question- We have been thinking for IVF and trying to understand with this process, is there any difference in the health and life of the child as compared to a child born without IVF. I did ask this with our doctor and he said casually its all same. This is not to question any doctor but just to really understand what is going to be different with the kid. This is not very old technology and not much studies as well.

This bowl has been quiet and I see partners commenting on odd posts around fishbowl so I figure you need more fodder: partners, did any of you have parents that travelled as much as you do?

What are you all reading other than maternity help books? Any book recommendations for after baby is born? Mainly around how to keep the baby safe from injuries and incidents.

How do you incorporate warm up/bell ringer problems so that kids actually complete the problems and not just use that time to socialize?

Potential unintended consequences of my parenting decisions is the most stressful thing ever.

The “right” approach can feel so clear one moment, then feel like a huge mistake the next.

What are some of the best consulting firms for digital strategy roles? Looking for a change and was wondering which of the T1/T2 firms have digital practices in Canada. I have applied to ATK and McK. BCG is working to establish their presence in Canada but their team is focused on establishing top down. Bain doesn’t have digital focus. Can anyone shed some light on other T2 firms?

Hi folks ,
I have overall 4.5 years of experience in etl/bi/informatica testing .From past 1 year I am working in Deloitte as a consultant .I have a query do companies like Amazon,Adobe,Apple hire Etl tester .If yes any initiative is appreciated.

What can be the salary for Senior Analyst in Capgemini?

Are private companies easier to work at than public companies in accounting? We have such an accelerated close deadline at the publicly traded company I’m at now, I really hate the inflexible tight deadlines and analysis seems to drag on forever after that. We also close AP/AR very early in the month yet that doesn’t stop payments/receipts from happening so we’re constantly adjusting our accruals until the end of month. Do private companies start their close after the month actually ends?

Last associates committee meeting is coming up. Partners have asked each associate to come up with... not one... but FIVE marketing ideas. Other than reeling out “we offer competitive pay” in job postings, what are some good ones your firm does?

I’m struggling a bit. If I knew how to market well, I certainly wouldn’t be in this position.

Spending 48 hours in Belgium this summer. Do you recommend Brussels or Antwerp?

For Plaintiff's attorneys, how big is your caseload? What kind of cases are the majority of them and are they in suit? I am currently handling 150+ mostly MVAs and premise liability cases, just about all in suit, (on top of about 10 DUIs and other small traffic matters) and I feel like I'm drowning and looking to jump ship. What is normal/to be expected? In NYC area if that matters

NYC area Personal Injury Lawyers:

What are some of the most well respected plaintiff’s personal injury firms in NYC, and why?

I have been wanting a dog for like 10+ more years, now I’m finally a full grown adult but I suddenly don’t know if I can take that responsibility and handle what will happen in like 15 years when my fur baby will eventually pass away. Also I hated to say but I don’t trust any pet stores but idk where to find a good breeder and puppies are so so expensive recently. Should I still get a dog?

Anyone keeping tabs on the Darrell Brooks trial? Prime sovereign citizen nonsense.

Where can I find the holiday calendar in CGI?

Hey all, for those who accepted offers and are starting new jobs, I recommend reaching out to your new company to ensure all materials are shipped ahead of impending lockdowns!

What is the severance pay in pwc India?
Does everyone who gets fired be eligible for it?

It's sad to see people with 2-3 years of experience getting paid more than you when u have double the experience. 😄 Best part is they are still complaining of getting less. Well I guess you should never settle. New gen is giving a hard time to the experienced folks. I think this is the high time to upgrade your skills. Come out of your comfort zone and start looking for new opportunities. I think this is the best time to switch if u haven't already in quite some time.
Thoughts 💭 ???

Has anyone ever used a home equity loan to pay off debt (at a lower interest rate)? Smart or bad idea?

What’s the comp range for L4 Product Strategy/Ops in Mountain View?

Have any of you enrolled in or completed the Penn MCIT program and be willing to chat about your experience?

Could you seriously date someone who isn't on the same financial level as you?

I’m going for a small/boutique firm to big law and had a question about support staff. How often do you use support staff (i.e scheduling appointments and time keeping). Also do you guys have an assistant assign only to you or is the assistant for multiple attorneys

I’m looking for a paralegal opportunity in the DMV/NYC/NJ area, preferably remote but I’m open to a hybrid schedule. I’ve an LL.B. (2014), and currently working as an appellate paralegal with experience in bankruptcy, civil rights litigation, and family law. I’m open to all areas of the law. Please comment if you are or know someone/law firm/in-house who’s looking for a paralegal.

How do you balance your social life with work? I feel like all my non-law friends are out doing shit every night and living it up on the weekends and I just can't. I'm either working or I'm tired from working. How can I set better boundaries about working outside of work, and where do y'all get the motivation to be outside after work 😭

As black attorneys, what traumas do you think are unique to us?

Good morning. I am a newly admitted attorney(well I’ve be practicing for a little over a year now) and I like the practice group I’m in but I don’t love it. How do I go about switching practice groups within my current firm and is it even possible?
**More information: currently working in the finance practice group but I’m interested in the general commercial and real estate groups

What's the number one barrier stopping more Black attorneys and associates from joining or succeeding in big law?

What are the benefits of being licensed in multiple states? Do you use all of your different law licenses at least once a month?

Just started a new role 3 months ago and both my boss and co-worker have resigned within the first month. Is this a sign? Should I start looking elsewhere?

I need some guidance on this situation.

I sublease an apartment from a friend who is currently in Jail unfortunately. I wasn’t in the lease and the apartment found out from my personal check which I paid for the rent.

They refused the rent and after the three day notification has passed they refused the cashier’s check here in Orange County.

The apartment has put him up for eviction and I feel bad about this cos it was cost savings. Is there anything I can do to save this?

I am an unmarried working man in his 30s with a southern mother. In other words I'm flying home for Christmas and my mother just called to tell me that she just happened to accidentally run into the sweetest girl from her church that she just knows I'll get along with and accidentally invited her to our house for dinner the night that I get home. Deadass the woman will not rest until I am tied down. Pray for me!

Any connects for black design professionals?

Any nonprofit/EO lawyers looking for a change of scenery and a better fit?
A firm with the best of everything is hiring. Seriously a hidden gem.

DM if interested. California bar required.

Open to given a referral if you’re a bad ass radical lawyer, just don’t make me look bad. 😊

Two more weeks until the new year. Is anyone else struggling to finish the year off strong?

Does anyone feel like there are certain practice areas that are more accessible and/or welcoming to black attorneys? Specify location when responding.

This bowl was originally created for black attorneys in big law, but since it’s the only bowl for black attorneys, many black attorneys in other sectors have joined. Some people are apprehensive about starting another bowl for all black attorneys because it will take away from this bowl. Assuming that the conversations & topics will stay the same, What are you thoughts on keeping this bowl solely for black in big law verses Opening this bowl to any black lawyer?

Any thoughts on how the litigation going on between Twitter and Elon Musk is going pan out?