Working Parents in Law

For those in nyc, have any of you been accepted to private 3s programs that require a full annual tuition commitment before you hear back about public 3K options? Have any of you navigated this? How… more

Hi all! I am considering quitting my job and being a SAHM. It’s been very hard for me bc my self esteem and identity is tied to my profession (not healthy, I know). I’m struggling to keep up and this … more

Has anyone sleep trained an eight month old? What method did you use? Any tips?

Side hustle ideas with little time investment?

Has anyone ever switched jobs because of the healthcare coverage? My firm is small to midsize but my portion of the premium + copays and coinsurance is my biggest expense aside from daycare and mortga… more

Does anyone have a detailed budget template (excel or google sheets) they’d be willing to share with me?

Does anyone have a detailed excel/google sheet budget template they use that would be willing to share with me?

Managing Partner is a 60-something white male who came up in his career with a stay at home wife, made gobs of money, and is shocked to learn that his firm with a 1920 hr min (more to bonus or make pa… more

I have stayed at home for the past 4 1/2 years raising my family and it's time to get back to work. financially we need it. i have tried to keep up with my field but dont think i have done enough … more

I’m tired of these hours. I’m an L&E attorney and I want my nights and weekends back but my cost of living requires me to make the same or more than what I make. I’m in midlaw. What job can I do w… more

To make my hours for the year I need to work 65 hours a week this month. Those of you who do this with small children, can you give me a sample schedule of how you do it with commute times etc?

Anyone have experience as an EEOC investigator with a vendor / government contractor and did it help you transition to employment law management side in house, at all? I have no law firm employment law experience… more

I am stepping into a new leadership role at my firm for our parent affinity group. If you have a similar group at your firm, what do you love about it? What do you dislike about it? What do you wish i… more

Really struggling to stay on task and focused on work with the 201+ other things to take care of in my personal life (doctors appointments, school tours, next size up in clothing, grocery order, etc) … more

I’m inhouse but got an unsolicited firm offer for $75k+ than my current salary. Billing sucks but I am still relatively early in my career and more training wouldn’t be the worst thing. I’m thinking I… more

What is everyone childcare schedule/situation? Currently on mat leave with my second. My first goes to daycare 8:30/9-5/530. We are trying to figure out what to do with the second. I (lawyer) WFH usua… more

What are dumb things people have said to you regarding maternity leave? I’ll start: enjoy your time off!

Did anyone feel like going back after parental leave?

My parental leave is coming to an end and I love spending time with my spouse and kid. I dread going back to the 24/7 biglaw life. I didn’t mind when childless… more

My kid just started kinder and OMG. The weekly homework, weekly testing, weekly Spanish homework on top of all of the extracurricular programs I didn’t sign up for (but maybe should have? Is she going… more

First workday of two weeks where our kids have gone to grandma and grandpa's house to stay. So of course I get pulled into an all-day mediation to pinch hit because my co-counsel had a family emer… more

How much do you pay your nanny/babysitter? I live in a high cost of living city and just had my second kid. Our current nanny is wonderful and I’d be lost without her. We current pay her $35/hr (over … more

My 5 Mo old keeps waking up every 30-60mins at night wanting her pacifier (it falls out when she’s asleep). Any advice how to improve the situation? Tried to get rid of the pacifier cold turkey, but s… more

As much of a leg up as it may seem our childless colleagues have, I've noticed at least in litigation that childless partners are less able to adjust when things don't go according to plan.

Currently 7.5 months pregnant at a BigLaw firm that offers 5 months paid leave with additional ramp up/down periods. I am so glad I have that option but also terrified of actually taking it. I am not … more

Day three of a norovirus outbreak in our house. 3 kids and 1 wife down for the count. Dad playing nurse and lawyer simultaneously impossible. Clients can wait.

Husband is SAHD to our 1 kid. It's a constant struggle to keep the house liveable. He cleans the kitchen every few days and bathrooms once every month or two. I have to clean daily to not rage. I … more

We spend all weekend together with the kids and getting quality family time and I absolutely love it, but I also get a real joy out of the silence of the Monday commute after dropping the kids off at … more

Has anyone transitioned their kids from private to public school or vice versa? How hard was the adjustment for you and your kiddos? Any regrets?

How do you handle Partner comments on low billables on a particular day but you’re otherwise getting work done? I had a perfect storm of family obligations (dr appointment, sick kid, needy parents, … more

Looking for advice as a soon-to-be first time mom who’s hoping to maintain her career. I’m really excited to become a parent and plan to prioritize family over work. (Grew up w/o a mother so it’s impo… more

Got passed over on last round of promotions, lost out to childless associates at my level of experience or below. Per my mentor everyone likes my work, and am at the top in billables (who needs sleep… more

What are your favorite nonprofits or charities to donate to? Do you volunteer for them as well? I've donated to many over the years but I'm never sure the money actually helps the cause. Would… more

My son's teacher shares a birthday with me and she's the sweetest lady! I would like to get her something for her birthday but don't want to default to the typical stuff people always give… more

Them: I can’t even take care of myself, idk how you’re doing all this with kids…

Me: (internally rolling my eyes) I just do it.

Would you consider including a picture of you and your child as your LinkedIn profile picture, visible to 1st-degree connections only? I am a man and understand the double standard, but would like … more

I’m a woman and tired of the comments I get from colleagues and clients like, “ you should wear skirts and heels more,” “you’re such a petite little thing.” I've tried saying "please don'… more

Between cases and kids, I know it's always work work work- but in honor of Valentine's Day, how did you meet your SO? Curious to know how many people met at work! ❤

We have a house cleaner, and a son in daycare from 7am to 4:30pm. Order groceries when we’re busy and order too much takeout as it is. We have another kid on the way and a nanny for them both or both … more