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Hi fishes! I had asked for benefits other than CTC which Bank of America provides & now that I've completed 1 month here, here's the list of allowances you'll be getting irrespective of position/band:
1. Sodexo: 1300 p.m./ 15,600 p.a.
2. Transport allowance: 900 one way, 1800 two ways p.m./ 21,600 p.a.
3. Internet: 1500 max p.m. (other than that, one time installation charges)
4. Tuition fee: Any certification related to your field. Like CFA, FRM etc. 3,00,000 p.a.
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I went back to work at 8 weeks and it’s just too damn fucking early. All babies have reflux and GI issues I’m starting to believe as they are still so new and developing.
Unsolicited advice and unsure what meds baby is on but we used gripe water as much as we could per day. Slightly elevated the crib and lived with the stokke Tripp trap infant setup. Babies are fussy that young really no matter what. Takes time to find something that calms them. Could be investing in a vibrating chair, which helped our baby as it helped ease gas and stuff and calmed her.
Are you BF, combo feeding or EFF? That will help with sanity too as I found switching to EFF allowed for more structure and scheduling for everyone, gaining sanity. I tried too long to make things work that weren’t that stressed everyone out and the baby feeds off that.
Sorry for the rant. The early time is hard and exhausting and I feel for you.
I have a 6 month old with a milk protein allergy and eliminated all milk products from my diet. We are definitely supplementing with Nutrimigen so I can catch a break from breastfeeding and pumping and do not feel an ounce of guilt. Do whatever it takes to help you keep your sanity.
When do you go back? A lot can change in 4 weeks. Try to focus on the now. You got this mama!!
Thankfully not for another 4 weeks. I’m trying to be optimistic that things will be better by then 🙏🏼
sounds cliché but take comfort knowing you are not alone. I feel awful for you, I know how helpless, tired, and frustrated you must be. My 1st of 3 boys had reflux, which the dr didn't diagnose until 4 mo because he refused to admit it was possible until I showed him a video (whole other story) and those days were awful. My baby was just legitimately in pain and couldn't tell me. I could not stand when people asked "is he a good baby?" Well, no he doesn't seem like a good baby since he cries all the time, but is the alternative a BAD baby? I swore I'd never utter that question to a mom after that. And while this will feel like an eternity, it does stop eventually. The baby will settle down. Then it'll change in a few months and there will be another reason why the baby is fussy or not sleeping. Like teeth!
I had my 3rd just before COVID. I was WFH only a few weeks after going back and honestly, it helps a ton not to have to go to the office. I was able to pump whenever (during zooms all the time!) and didn't have to worry about my "hours" like I did before. Take a nap or rest in between meetings? Walk around the block? Be in comfy clothes since pre-baby wardrobe is tight? Yes, yes, yes. You will find a rhythm in time and it will start to become manageable. You need to carve out time for yourself, to take care of you. You will be a better mother, partner, employee if you find time to be selfish. And grace. You also need to give your baby and yourself grace. You will figure this out together, hang in there!
Thank you! This was everything I needed to hear. It does help knowing others have gone through it and made it out the other side. It’s so hard watching her be in pain and struggle through every feeding, helplessly crying (usually both her and i by the end of it). She is still gaining weight so the pediatrician kinda told us to suck it up since she is already on meds for it even though they aren’t really helping. It’s been hard not to compare to other babies or wish that they were more content but you can’t fault them for crying because they are in pain. I’m hoping it gets better by four months but have also been told they could peak at that point so I’m bracing myself for the worst over the next several weeks. I am hoping that being able to WFH when I go back will help us navigate the change a little bit easier than if I were returning to the office.
Are you working from home? Keeping baby upright while wearing baby against my chest all day in a soft carrier that allowed for skin-to-skin contact helped enormously with colic, and freed my hands up to type and work as needed. I used a bouncy exercise ball instead of a chair and that helped calm baby down, too.
Will be WFH for the foreseeable future ( due to Covid). We have been keeping the baby upright / wearing them in the carrier which does seem to help but have fallen into a trap where they don’t want to sleep laying down anymore 😱
My newborn had a dairy allergy/intolerance and switched him to a hypoallergenic formula around 3 months. He was a different baby after the switch. Wasn’t colicky, started sleeping better. It saved my sanity. Was bummed about giving up breastfeeding, but 100% worth it IMO.
Theres sooooo much pressure to BF and all these phony claims that if you don’t your baby will be stupid, fat, sickly. I was unable to make much of any milk at all (never developed milk glands apparently.) So it was pretty much all formula all the time fir her. Shes now12yo, healthy, slim, crazy talented/creative and gets straight As. So do not fear formula if thats the right choice for you.
I’m sorry! That’s super hard. My son used to sleep really well with no reflux issues when in his car seat bucket. We sometimes put him in the car seat on the drier (safely and with supervision) while it was running b/c the vibration is similar to a car ride. Put him right to sleep. Once asleep we’d move him. On the really bad nights he slept in his car seat in his crib.
This is so encouraging. I’m pregnant with my first and honestly I have no idea how you guys did it before Covid and WFH, at least now I can kind of imagine. Still pretty nervous 😬