About to launch my youngest into college. About to sell my post-divorce house and move into a new place, which is the first time I haven’t had to worry about school zoning in nearly 20 years. Potentially at a crossroads at work and wouldn’t be surprised if I’m looking for a new opportunity/career change. It hit me this morning that I am in the middle of a major life transition. How do you all manage the changes successfully? It’s exciting - and also weird.

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What an incredibly exciting and freeing time for you! Imagine what you’d say to a dear friend at the same place. Then, say that to you.

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Was in a similar spot a few years back. It’s fun but, as you said, also weird. My advice:
1. Enjoy the transition and give yourself time to get through it. Don’t put pressure on yourself to make the decisions all at once with a “final state” in mind. It’s ok to try things out before committing and it’s ok to build as you go. For me, I wasn’t sure where I wanted to buy my next place but really struggled with renting because “not fiscally responsible.” Well, I’m so glad I did rent because it exposed to me to some new neighborhoods and ultimately I ended up in a place I didn’t think I would have chosen otherwise because I simply didn’t know how different my day to day would be. So I got a cool experience living somewhere different and ultimately ended up in a perfect place for me.
2. Plan for yourself and your lifestyle. Do not unreasonably plan around kids. Do I really need lots of extra space for the 1-2 months they spend with me while in college and then even less? No. Do I want a swanky office that I would use daily and that garden I’ve always wanted? Yes!

Enjoy the ride!

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As a complement to P1’s wonderful advice, try staying in a short term rental for a week or two in each of your target locations (AirBnb or better yet, Marriott Homes with the same properties but lower fees and more forgiving cancelations). It’s an expense for sure, but not as taxing as being locked into a lease or home purchase in a neighborhood that doesn’t work out. I did this when I had 3 cities to choose from with a work relocation. I ended up going with a neighborhood that was walkable to a wonderful coffee house, the library, and a little street with antique shops. I never had the time to explore and just hang out on my own before and may not have discovered these “happy places” otherwise. Congrats and have a blast!

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Also make list of things you really want to do for yourself and actually schedule them . bucket list

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Congratulations since you seem in a good place financially

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Involve yourself in some volunteer activity in the new place where u get to meet different people..makes you reset ...

First of all, I want to say congratulations! This is a lot of very exciting changes happening all at once. While it may seem a bit overwhelming when you look at the whole picture, remember to take it one day at a time. I agree with the comment above, make a list of the things that you have to work on and break it down into as many digestive little steps as you can so it's more manageable. A little progress every day and you'll have it all sorted out before you know it. I would consider whether you want to pick where you to move to based on your job, or the other way around.

Congratulations! You have received lots of great advice already, so I just want to say you have worked hard for this moment, so embrace and enjoy the small details of this transition. Plan little things that will make this season feel memorable and sweet when you're looking back on it. Best wishes!

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