Advice for letting my current sponsor know that I plan on working with a new sponsor? They did nothing wrong and were great to work with, but I’d like to change things up given how my current life is and have someone new I’d like to work with.

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I suggest that you very intentionally work with one or the other on specifically why you think you need to switch? Very rarely is it "just because, and whatever the reason really is probably needs to get looked at and addressed in some capacity.

I was looking to swap out one of my regular meetings for "something new" and "just to change it up" a few months ago and my sponsor's only suggestion was to makesure that I was running to something rather than running away from something. This prompted inventory and further conversation, we sorted through what I was running from, and I sill go to that meeting, and my program is stronger through it all.

Maybe you do need a new sponsor, I am merely suggesting that you don't make an unsponsored decision.

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Your sponsor will likely be happy that he/she is losing you to another sponsor rather than you walking away from the program like so many do. It's a program of honesty, saying something pretty close to what you posted here should be sufficient. If your sponsor works a good program themselves then they should be able to handle this transition with grace.

Have you identified the new sponsor or are you just looking for new? If you have someone in mind, do you know for sure they are willing to accept new sponsees? The last thing you want is to end up sponsorless with some awkward tension between your current sponsor.

But like the other person above said, if your motives are good, there are no festering resentments, you’ve prayed about it, and you believe your current sponsor would support you, then it’s totally appropriate to work with someone new who has more direct experience with what you may be going through currently.

Lastly, do you plan to rework the steps with the new sponsor? Ive always had the mindset that I want me sponsor to know all of me, that way he can provide the best suggestions when I’m struggling.

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