Am I being too sensitive? Co worker thinks she’s above me and talks to me in a hostile way sometimes. The other day she said “this work needs revision, go ahead and make the change that’s needed. You can update this ‘etc’, ‘etc’. Make sense? “ it sounds like she’s talking down on me like I’m dumb

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Can you give more details examples? This language doesn’t seem hostile. Is this person in an acting senior/manager role?

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This is not hostile language at all and is nicer than a lot of comments people I work with give. It actually sounds respectful. I assume if she’s giving you review comments that she’s in a reviewing position. If not, then that’s a different problem.

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Yes

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It sounds like they’re taking time to give you notes. Sometimes delivery in busy season can be short because people are tired. They could have just said figure it out or let the manager give you the notes.

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Seems normal to me.

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What is your level and her level? Even at the same level, if she is reviewing your work then maybe she is more experienced and trying to make sure you are up to speed.

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It might be the "Tone" of the feedback that's making you feel uncomfortable and they may not be aware of that. Unfortunately, in corporate settings tone is not considered. Just the "words". So, when that person gives you feedback, just accept the constructive feedback and dismiss the rest. Most people don't know how to talk politely in a regular conversation. Talking over each other and not listening while the other person is speaking. I don't expect anything more when they are giving feedback that should be constructive but isn't because they might feel some kind of way about having the conversation in the first place.

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Is she above you? Sounds like comments seniors leave to staff or interns

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Is it a peer or someone reviewing above you?

yes, sounds like you’re being too sensitive (or misunderstanding her intentions). you said she “thinks she’s above you”. you literally have no way of knowing what she is thinking. all you are doing is upsetting yourself. i don’t see anything hostile about what she said or see that as talking down to you.

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