Any other desi’s struggling with racial identity in dating? I was raised culturally Indian, vegetarian, but not very religious. My social life is mostly the white fratty type and I never had many Indian friends, so I struggle to relate to and connect with Indian women, though I’d like to make it work since that’s ultimately I want to be with someone with a similar upbringing. How do you approach this?

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M here: Feel your pain. grew up in a predominantly white area and didnt have a lot of Desi friends or around me. Listen you did the biggest thing, which is admitting what you want. Somethings I've been doing to reconnect with my Indian roots are:

- watch some newerish Desi movies. Muster some confidence then watch the classics in time. I mean SRK Classics(DSLJ) maybe Amitbh classic (Silsila) if you're feeling it.
- I started to listen to lots of Desi music. Fantastic way to expand your vacab.
- trying to reconnect with food and learning Mom's cooking. At the very least observe it.
- See if there's a Asian/ Desi group at work and try connecting there.
- look for Desi Young Professionals Meetup
- started wearing more Desi clothes and really enjoying it as Desi parties.

These helped me reconnect, may not work you.

Oh god another indian trying to be white adjacent

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