How do you deal with your boyfriend still being friends with someone he slept with before? Kind of bothers me but not sure if it’s normal....

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Guys are too casual and the gay community is too small to really get hung up on this. If you make a big deal about it, he may opt to not tell you about his past when the issue arises again. Keeping secrets is less healthy than taking a step back and figuring out if there’s something else bothering you about the situation. If it really is over with the other and you really do trust your beau, then just smile slyly as you think “he’s mine now"

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Several ways based on the specifics of your situation.
1. If he was dating the other guy, tell him how you feel about it
2. If the guy is a former boy friend tell him how you feel and see if you can be OK with them being friends, but you hang out together
3. If the guy was a trick tell your boyfriend you would like if he stopped seeing him other than in occasional social circles
Happy to provide more advice but without specifics hard to be more helpful.
But there’s always a risk of a slip-up if it’s not addressed, especially if your boyfriend drinks and the two of them are hanging without you

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The gay world is way too small for us to cut people out of our lives because we once slept with them. I'd consider it a good thing because he's clearly a decent person because the other guy still wants to he friends and he's a mature person because he recognized they weren't right for each other without blowing everything up.

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OP, feel free to DM if you need to talk more. While other perspectives here are valuable and valid, they take a different position than I do. I see this differently and take a position closer to your feelings

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Since this is something that bothers you enough to write this post, you should definitely bring it up. You don't want to feel bad about it and accumulate feelings / resent his behavior without him knowing. I disagree with EY 1, that you should just get over it without talking to him. I expect that what's bothering you is that it is unreasonable to tell him how to socialize. I'd focus the conversation on how to make sure you feel secure in your relationship with him and behaviors that make you feel bad when they hang out together. So long as you don't blame him for your feelings, a loving BF will want to figure out how to meet in the middle.

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Sorry for the misunderstanding EY 1 😅

This is a trust issue more than anything. Often times, I find in my own group of friends that this “discomfort” or fear of being cheated on stems from your own insecurity. One side of the solution is to fix your insecurity or manage them, but another way that I see it is, “If he’s gonna cheat, then he’s not the one for me anyway. I should trust my boyfriend enough that he wouldn’t do that.” And if the ex comes onto him, that’s not your boyfriend’s fault and shouldn’t be treated that way. But I agree with the folks above. Think on it, sleep on it, then talk to him about it

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