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Had 2 under 2. Then 3 under 5. You adapt. 1 wasn’t easy when when were in your shoes. 1 is very easy now when we can pawn the others off with grandparents.
Lots of articles with tactical tips (eg outsource the bits you don’t enjoy/aren’t critical). My main advice: muster absolutely as much patience as you can (with your kids and your wife). You will never NOT regret being grumpy or snippy around them.
FWIW my youngest is almost 1 and I can’t balance anymore. I’m leaving for a killer opportunity with a client and am glad for every time I pushed back on timeline or scope to be with my kids. Those Principals and Partners won’t care, and BCG is still just fine.
Good luck.
This is good advice, especially the grumpy bit
So people will know who I am with this post... I have 5 kids. My oldest was 4 when we had twins. My wife and I adopted 3 at birth and then did an embryo adoption. This just scratches the surface of my complexity of my parenting. The ONLY reason I allow for this is my wife is amazing with kids and with the twins we have finally accepted help at home. Couple tips. Never stop talking with your partner. Maintain the romantic relationship; you are more than a dad. You are a husband as well. The first few months of adjusting are hard. Stability always comes back. Could take 6-12 months. Parenting books read them! Ask for recommendations. Find a community to get help even just emotional support. Pre cook meals and load up your freezer. The last thought is odd but don’t just meet her needs in this time. Also find room for your own. You can do this!Congratulations!
Twin toddlers... I literally got thrown to the sharks (do do dodo do do). Hang in there.
I feel horrible when I cant see my kids and I know my wife is a rock star. But when am home is for the kids and her, no chores (pay someone), no friends (unless kids can come, having friends tgat are parents help), and all leisure time is for them until night time.
Hang in there, make it work, take PTO, delegate at work properly.
In a similar situation, without family support my only solution is to find local gigs.
Just hope you can survive until they’re both 3+. Try not to drink too much. You’re basically fu*ked in a good way. You only live once...
We have 3 under 3 years old. Oldest was not 2 yet when we found it we were having twins. Communication with your partner is key. Get help where you can and don’t forget to enjoy this time with your partner.
Have a 1 and 3 year old. The wife also has a high end job so don’t have any trump cards to pull. It has its challenges. We try to leverage family to help while I’m traveling. I have been lucky enough to score some lighter travel engagements which helps. Other than that just FaceTime a lot and be dad if the year on the weekends.
Nope, no hope in the short term. The second doesn't double the difficulty, it squares it... For the first 2 years or so. After that having two is easier than one. My kids are older now and will often play together for hours at a time.
1 kid = difficulty 10. There ya go.
I already had a kid in college so coming into consulting was very frustrating at first. No one on my teams had kids (including the managers) so it took a while to balance. Eventually you get more responsibility and more freedom to manage your schedule. Just be patient and help out when you are home.