Are any of you religious? Sometimes I feel like my ND traits make it extra difficult for me to play along, so to speak. It feels more sacrilegious to lie about how much I pray or believe that there's a being that put all the answers to being a good person 101 in a book. I prefer to just stay quiet and allow people to do their thing, but my family is extremely aggressive and confrontational and invasive about these things, so not an option. How do others deal with this type of situation?

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Not at all, but neither is my family or many of my friends. Tbh, people who are actively religious are definitely in the minority in my country (UK). Several of my in-laws are religious and it's never been a source of conflict for us. They go to church and we don't. It's not something we particularly discuss.

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I went to Catholic school from ages 5 to 23 because that is how I was raised. It really messed me up with the guilt (still afraid of getting in trouble) but probably kept me in line during my formative years. Now, I am as non religious as one can be. If dozens/hundreds of religions are all saying they are true, probability tells us none are true. And they covered up a bunch of ped behavior which is unforgivable.

FWIW, I never considered ADHD until my son was diagnosed as Twice Gifted. Read the report and was like I was reading a report about myself. Took a neuropsych at 40, which confirmed it. So I grew up masking without knowing what I was doing and had enough IQ to do very well in school.

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Geez I didn’t even answer the question. My extended family is still religious but I am not. Hasn’t come up but if you are an adult, live your life. You don’t have to be upfront but if they pressure you, tell them how you feel.

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Are you in the US? I'm in Canada, and I'm guessing it works a bit different here from my experience. I have a couple of religious family members, but other than discussing their church trip or something, it doesn't get discussed. They would never bring it up with the expectation that we should discuss our own beliefs, and if they did, they would be immediately shut down. Religion is a personal thing, and most people in my life, both friends and family, aren't believers.

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I grew up extremely religious in an insular community and it just never clicked for me. I was secretly not doing any of it since like, earliest memory: third grade. I had to hide it my entire life until I left the community externally at age 28. I hid it for that long. Playing along is insane because it’s not like Christianity where you do stuff, go to church once a week etc. in mine, you need to look a certain way, pretend to do religious tasks 15-45x a day, speak a certain way, go to events to prove you’re pious a few times a week, pray multiple times a day, make blessings on food, etc etc. I hate being restricted and I hated faking it. I always felt like I was on the outside looking in, in my own family, with my friends, in school, in my community, when I was dating. It was horrid. I actively tried finding god to the death of me. I came to terms with the fact that it just isn’t for me and never will be. I’m raising my son on the edge of the community but in it enough to be ambiguous, accepted, and have lots of friends. I want him to have a foundation of the beauty that religion COULD bring, if it’s healthy. He gets to choose what he wants longterm but I’m raising him to have critical thinking about it and to always accept anyone else’s journeys and level of religiosity in both directions.

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I’m an eldest daughter too ❤️ here to support in DM’s if that would be of help.

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