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39 Is not that old to start a family. You will have to make some sacrifices but the reward will pay off in the long run. The biggest piece of advice I can give is DO NOT force your children to make sacrifices around your work and living schedule. Their needs will have to take priority in your life. If you dont plan on making adjustments to your busy career path while you attempt to start a family, your children will be the ones who suffer and that can have long lasting effects.
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Having kids after 35 to me you do not have that energy to mange them. I had my kid in my 20s am glad I did now she is independent and am an empty nester. We can both focus on our careers. Am enjoying life .
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She has nannies . I had a live in nanny despite the fact I had my kid in my mid 20s . Why did I do that ? Coz I was going to school and working . It is more fun when u have kids below 35. Also pregnancies after 35 are considered high risk. I have seen it in many women even my mom when she had my youngest brother.
I had mine at 40 and 44, first ones. I had both good pregnancies. No epidural, nitrous oxide (laughing gas) 3&1/2 hour labor, no C-section. And have lived having my girls. Totally enjoyed two - one year maternity leaves and part time work. I was up to it though. I have kept in shape and did yoga for six years prior which helped a lot
I'm 41 and just assume I'm not having kids at this point. I've always had this come whatever may attitude about my life. I do have a niece and nephews so I get my kid fix by hanging out with them.
It’s completely normal to feel unsure about timing, especially when balancing career and family. Many people are having children later in life now, and there’s no “right” age to start a family. If you're worried about career impact, it can help to find a supportive environment that values work-life balance.
As for your chances of having a family, it’s never too late, and there are many ways to plan for a fulfilling life, career and family included. Just take it one step at a time and prioritize what feels right for you!
If career worries are adding stress, sometimes using tools that streamline tasks like job applications can help you manage time better and reduce the pressure.
Good lord.. I had my first at 26 and thought I was late to the game. I don’t see how anybody could handle the new born stage past their 30’s
There’s no right time only what works for you. I had mine in late 30s cause I just wasn’t ready beforehand. Contrary to what some people may say if you are fit and healthy, being older doesn’t make you too tired to look after them.
They have brought us such unbridled joy and wonder, you will be amazed at the depths of feeling that a child gives you. It’s like all of life has a purpose now. That said, as you know you trade your independence. So your life as you know right now won’t be quite the same. Especially in the first three years. And then slowly you return to yourself.
You can still enjoy a fulfilling career and the benefits of having a family if that’s what you decide. It’s just that their needs come first. You have to be there to collect them from daycare or take a day off when they are sick. It’s especially gruelling in the early years. There is also something to say that having kids is not for everyone and you can live a fulfilling life either way.
I was 24 we’ve been Married 17yrs now and we have 4 children.
There is no right or wrong answer, it’s all up to your timing. My wife and I had kids very young. I was 20 she was 17 when our first was born. Yes, we weren’t ready but we learned. Yet we have heard the same from older parents, that they weren’t ready. Yet they managed just fine. Are you gonna let something like work (career) dictate if you’re having a family or not? We have always sacrificed the job over our family, jobs come and go, remember, we are just another number that can and will be replaced at a drop of a hat!
Some people don’t want kids. Perfectly normal.
There is no right time
I was 38 when I had my first child. i had my second child when turned 40. I would have another at the age 46 but I husband doesn't want anymore. you do you. good luck
I'm 53 and haven't given up hope. I've never felt or acted my age, so hopefully my ovaries are on board with that outlook. 😄 Seriously, it all depends on you. What does you heart want? If it turns out my body can't physically have a child, I'll look into other alternatives. As long as you're healthy and able make the commitment, age shouldn't stop you. 🤗
Started at 25. We were young and broke but honestly the best decision we’ve ever made. Made us hungry to do bigger things and we won’t even be 50 when they are grown and out of the house. Lots of life left to live together and we are going to be very well off.
I'll be 42 this year, hubby will be 41. We don't have kids. We tried but were unable to. We have dogs instead.
I had big gaps between my children. My first at 21yrs then another at 28yrs and my last at 37yrs. Honestly my last I was more relaxed, confident in myself,better at managing time. I was working fulltime yet seemed less busy and more able to spend time with my youngest. My oldest, I was insecure, tried too hard to follow advice from everyone else. Felt like I was still a child myself. My second I was anxious all the time. Scared of everything hurting her. I think the right age is the age you decide is right for you. I can tell you that my children are my very breath. My career is not.
It’s hard I had 2 kids at 28 and 29 it’s a lot of work and you will need like 2 months of time off even for stuff that comes up. Also the older you get the higher chance of having problems with the baby’s. Look it up might let you think more on it. But I work for the state so I get time off like crazy so like I said just make sure you got the time and about 5k for baby stuff
If you’re still worried about derailing your career , then perhaps having a family will never be right for you. You don’t need to start a family , you can still have a fulfilling career and be perfectly content. Life is what you make of it, you need to be of the mindset that a family is what you want/need and you will make it work no matter the compromises or even the sacrifices- it will always feel worth it. This next part is tmi and may feel triggering but you’re asking so I want you to be prepared : Having a biological family later in life is not always easy for most, as far as reproducing viable eggs, unless you are prepared to spend a considerable amounts towards IVF treatments. You must be prepared for struggles and losses. The more you wait the bigger the heartbreak. It will never be the right time . Have your family if that’s what you want and all the trials will be trivial at the end because you decided to share your life and raise a human being , alone or with a partner. This will impact you economically, emotionally and profoundly for the rest of your days … good luck!
I was 24
Hola saben de algún trabajo de niñera. ???