Be honest: how often do you actually enjoy your 1:1s with your team? I try to keep them meaningful but some weeks, it feels like we’re both just checking a box. I don’t want them to feel like yet another meeting on an already full calendar, but I also don’t want to force small talk just to keep the vibe light. I’m trying to figure out what makes 1:1s genuinely valuable and energizing, not transactional. What’s worked for you to make these meetings something your team actually looks forward to?

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When 1:1s focus on the person—not just the projects—they become a space for connection and growth. I’ve started asking one simple question at the start: “What’s on your mind today?”—and it’s changed everything about how those conversations go.

It is the direct report who must drive the one to one,not you (if they really want to grow in their career).

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