Been in US for the last 7 years. Currently in two minds on whether to stay here or move back to India. Every time I go back home for a vacation, it’s getting harder to come back to US (1/2)

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OP, I wouldn't use vacation to judge if you actually do feel more and more inclined to move back. For 3-4 weeks, it might feel good.. U knoen, meeting friends, hanging out, doing things we used to love doing when still there but what are the odds we will still feel the same if doing it for 365 days? My SO and I have had this conversation a few times actually. We don't have kids yet but we will at some point. SO has worked in India and I haven't. I've spent almost as much time in the US as I have growing up in India.

With the growing uncertainty of H1b, which also affects my spouse's H4ead badly, and GC looking impossible to obtain I have frequently flirted with the idea of going back. I have enough of a tech background to get into IT as a delivery manager or something (I've been a contractor, big 4 consultant and also industry) but it won't be something I would like to do. The other option would be to get an MBA and change career path either before going to India or do that in India but how viable would that be now in my mid 30's?

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As I can see my parents are getting older and need me around (although they won’t mention that).

Anyone who recently moved back to India? How has your experience been? Has it been easy to adjust to life back home or any regrets /second thoughts? (2/2)

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First gen immigrant curse. Can’t avoid it

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OP - 7 years in the US is not a long time. You can still go back and pick it up like you never left. The longer you stay the harder it gets. So if you are considering a move back do it sooner rather than later.

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Move ASAP buddy. You are at the right age to see a big growth trajectory in India. Even better if you have a fancy mba or something that will really put you on the expressway

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To be honest, I am not sure that’s what the case. All our politicians, media have been painting this rosy picture as if something great is happening in India. Lot of my friends are struggling to even find new opportunity, and there many job less people in small towns who don’t have fancy degrees etc. if something great is happening, then that should have an impact on bottom line. But that’s clearly not the case..

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In the same boat but the political climate is a serious deterrent. I don’t want my kids to grow up around such hate

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Watch him wriggle out of this one as well

I have moved to India last year. It’s been just over a year and don’t regret it one bit. If you are thinking twice, just do it. A leap of faith and see how it goes. If you don’t like it, move back to USA is easier than you think (I know of 3 colleagues who moved to US from here in last 6 months, 2 of them going for the first time and one going back for SO)

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EY3, yes definitely lifestyle, if it can be afforded, would be a huge upturn in India. And being close to parents.. My sibling and I are both here and our parents are in their 70's.. They will never say it out aloud obviously but they will need someone around.. Like I said.. We(my SO and I) keep thinking, discussing and writing down pros and cons but haven't been able to decide one way or another. Or where does Canada fit into this... If at all. My SO feels that unending delays in H4 extensions, which has caused her to lose her job this time around, is getting to be too much of stress for her. Can't blame her

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There are numerous stories of folks going back to India and a similar number of folks returning back. You should do what is right for you. There’s no right or wrong here.

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EY1: Are u in the same boat? How are you handling it?

Somewhat in the same boat but I am building a house here so, going to stay for next 4-5 years for sure. Don’t judge by vacation time alone. There will always be pros and cons but you should do what you strongly feel about - parents, kids, lifestyle, h1b uncertainty will influence that. I have GC so somewhat less anxious but believe me when I say - first gen immigrant always misses home😪

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