Completely conflicted. Have been offered an amazing job (pro-family, great benefits, in-house!) but would mean ending my leave earlier than planned. I want the job (it’s 4 days) but teary thinking about leaving baby at 7 months. Won’t I miss so much of her?

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I want to know where you are that you got 7 months. But also where you’re going that’s 4 days. Both sound amazing!

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It is hard either way. Go with your gut and do what feels right!

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As a working mom I’ll just say the missing of your sweet little one feels endless! That’s there forever. Great job opportunities such as the one that’s landed in your lap are rare these days! Amazing your little will have an incredibly empowered mommy w good job vibes to nurture him/her!
As ‘they’ say. Take care of you and the kids feel that. I know so many mommas that are forced to put 3 month olds in daycare. Sounds like your doing amazing! We are so lucky to work in a wonderfully supportive industry.
Best of luck!

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thank you!! Do you know, I did wonder if this feeling will never go away, even when my kid is 16, 26 or 56. I am infatuated with her. I love my job in production, and I’m really excited about using an intelligent part of my brain, but I also want to spend every waking moment watching her little development. It’s so hard.
It’s like I have 2 brains.

I guess you could look at it as if I did listen to my maternal calling and take a full year (if we can afford to on husband’s income), it’s unlikely this job package would come back around again

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If the new job gives you more of a work-life balance in the long run than the job you’d be returning to- it’s probably worth considering.
It will never be easy to go back, but each day will get less hard. And the older your kiddo gets the more you’ll want to be there for dinner time, have weekends free if work etc. think of this with a longer term view. You can also try and negotiate a few more days to help it feel a little better.

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This is really good advice thank you. I won’t do the 70 hour weeks anymore.

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Leaving your little one to go back to work is the hardest, no matter when you do it. ❤️

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How much leave are you sacrificing?

To be honest, it’s kind of irrelevant as I resigned from my old job. I couldn’t face the thought of going back to an ad agency. New role is in-house at a nice, well regarded company. I applied for it early last year, then it went on hold, and it came back around 3 months after I gave birth 🤦🏼‍♀️. They actually don’t know I’m taking leave and had a baby. They’re expecting a three month notice period anyway, I’m wondering if I could push it a little longer(?)

They would like the candidate to start early August. To me that feels so soon, even though it’s exactly what I had always ‘planned’.

This sounds like an amazing opportunity that would give you more time with your child in the long run. I know it’s so hard to think about being away from your baby, but you still have the whole summer (!) to have fun adventures and then can come back to a role with only 4 days. It sounds like a dream to me. Good luck, mama.

Thank you ladies. I guess it feels bittersweet. Time is flying so fast. I miss her when she’s in the next room with my partner. But yah this job would set us up well to establish a balanced family life. Let’s hope they’re willing to wait until September so I can have summers in the park at least.

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Sounds like you figured it out. The first day I brought my 5 mo old to daycare I felt like my heart was breaking. I cried every day that week. By the next week daycare was my favorite thing in the world. Transition is hard and so is being a mom. Best of luck to you, you’ll get through this! ❤️

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