Do you think it’s true that you shouldn’t be friends with your coworkers? I feel like it’s not true at all because no one understands what you’re going through more than them.

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I think there's a big difference between being friendly and being friends. Friendly implies that you can get along and chitchat and work well together. Friends implies that you are hanging out outside of work, which in my experience often leads to issues.

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Really? What kinds of issues? I’ve never experienced that.

I would agree, but be cautious with some of them. I thought I was talking to a coworker as a friend, and some of the things I shared ended up getting back to my manager. That experience taught me that with certain coworkers, it’s better to stay cordial rather than friendly.

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Oh wow that’s horrible sorry.

I have found that this statement is true. All people do not approach friendship like you do. Your "friend at work" can through you under the proverbial bus and then get on it and ride off into the sunset. There are genuine people at work. You have to be able to discern who those people are. Watch how they move and relate to others. To be on the safe side, I've learned that it is safer to be friendly but not friends. I have friends outside of work.

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That's a terrible rule. You can absolutely be friends with coworkers as long as you're capable of maintaining professionalism and don't badmouth anyone. Even if the friendship turns sour, as long as you haven't said anything you'd regret having repeated, you're fine.

Yes totally agree!

That’s a dumb rule
I’m friends with most of my coworkers

We do t hang out much outside work but that’s more because I’ve got two young kids

Right makes no sense! I’ve met great people from work

My coworkers have become very good friends over the years. I don’t subscribe to the belief that you shouldn’t get close to your coworkers. Not everyone is out to get you

Right same here!

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