Don't let your partner feel like they come 2nd to your job (whether they are stay at home, or 2nd income earner). Remind them that they're number one on your list, and show them occasionally by taking an early mark or a day off work to do something nice with them/for them.

I've only been married 5 years, and we have a little baby now, but I've already made the mistake of prioritising work over family time - it's so easy to justify, be sure to catch yourself. Marriage, and family, come first.

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Very true, my wife and I both take a day off every two months to get a massage, have lunch, watch a movie and shop. Our kid is in school and dog goes to daycare so it’s just the two of us.

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It's so true, and it's even harder once you have kids because you feel the need to work even harder sometimes. But it's a delicate balance because you can work and make all the money in the world, but the lack of connection will cause your relationship to suffer. This is solid advice - and I can tell you are offering it to yourself just as much as to the rest of us. :) Thank you for the reminder!

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It is a perpetual battle isn't it. This is absolutely something I have to remind myself of, almost daily.

I go a different way.

We involve one another in our professional lives. This allows us to support one another and helps us to understand the priority of a project or initiative.

She’s an academic.

I’m a CX leader.

You’d be surprised at how much of our professional experience can help the other. For example, she took a data course with me and now her students get a Data credit for taking her philosophy courses.

It helps us understand one another, prioritize our tasks, and it helps us spend more time together. I tell her everything about my professional life and I know everything about her.

It makes us closer, more understanding partners and professionals.

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How do we do that? Please show us the way

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Basically communicate, thx

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We both work in education for 20+ years; she is at a university. Our work demands generally follow predictable patterns, and we are able to both have dynamic priorities that line up at predictable times.
We are both extremely committed to our careers and often put that first.
It works for us, in part because we are so well aligned. It helps that there are nice blocks of time where there are no other priorities but each other. This year, we will be at our vacation home together for 5 weeks with no distractions. We always have holidays off together.

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I have twins and a baby both consultants any advice for us? Lol

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We are planning to... Hopefully sthg like WED dinner out since we never know when client dinner and team events are going to land. But typically so exhausted hehe

I suppose you haven't quite cottoned on to the fact that people have varying priorities, choices, and needs.

This advice is there for those people who needed to see it. If that's not you, move along, don't talk down to me because you can't agree to it or get your head around it.

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