Feeling frustrated b/c at company parties there’s pressure for juniors - esp if you come from a certain background to act “proper.” However .. I swear these executives are wild & if I did any of what they did, I would get fired on the spot. Has anyone experienced this? I couldn’t believe my eyes

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Company parties:

Be vanilla.

Arrive a smidge late. Leave early.

Say hello to the important folks, and then stay in a corner the rest of the time with people you like (or can stand.)

Do not get drunk.

Don’t sing karaoke.

Don’t get on the dance floor.

Don’t over eat.

Do not flirt—this is not the place for Pam and Jim sh*t. And for the love of god, do not go home with anyone or even try anything like that.

(I’ve made all these mistakes and more)

Be vanilla.

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Not Flirting thing is difficult when alcohol is involved for many

They told you to “act proper” because of your background?

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For subordinates

Executives have different rules most of the time, all of which are unspoken. That being said, it’s not a licence for a free-for-all or to make unsavory remarks to others.

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Literally. It’s unfair

I’m a white and I’ve been told this too. Have a little fun, but never make a lasting impression at the company party.

It’s about not giving them any reason to not like you or think you’re a problem/someone who shouldn’t work there.

If you really want to let loose, you can always peel off to another bar with a group of friends/younger coworkers.

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Yes that’s great advice. Best to be out of the way than center of attention

I mean....I feel like I act "proper" no matter where I am at. I have seen excutives act wild and out of control but I am not really that way anyhow. I am just myself at the company parties.

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It’s not fair they get to act like that and not have consequences they would give to people below them

This behavior is only for the small inner circle of The Boys Club” It’s not about being on the third in the background it’s for a very small exclusive circle of people. Can you imagine any woman behaving that way and keeping her job?

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Yep. On top of being a woman, being a woman of color. Absolutely fired

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