Guys tell me this.

Me and my fiance were planning to go on a trip to a certain place.
Now my parents and her parents didn't like the place and told us not to go there.
I argued with my parents that you guys don't have the right to tell us where to go and where not to go as we are not teenagers but she is saying that we should modify the plan as per her parents wishes.

I told her either we go there or we don't go anywhere. There's no middleground.

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See if they suggested us I may have listened but they told her and she is willing to bend the plans.

My thought process is if we bend the plan it will send a message that they have some kind of right to set narrative even after we are married and I don't like that.

Am I overreacting?

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Bro there are 2 points:

1. After a certain age I don't think it's the parents place to tell what to do. You've done your job in raising us but obviously after a certain age if you try to control us, it will just cause problems in the relationship.

2. If we change our plans now based on our parents wishes who's to say they will not try to control is for everything. They will tell us where to invest or when to have child. I think it will set a really bad narrative if they started interfering in decisions that they have nothing to do with.

This is not acceptable to me whatsoever

It depends upon the kind of person you are and dealing with ( future FIL/MIL) AND should act accordingly.

1) if your future MIL or FIL are easy going, and wont over power you in the future, then its better to take their inputs as suggestion and choose other place to go for vacation.

2)If your future MIL or FIL are not easy going, and if their character do looks like:if you listen to their words now and change the vacation plan to the place they suggested, and so now they gonna feel Like :hell yeah, have got a puppet in our hands, and over power you and make you feel less in the future,
you better cancel the whole vacation and chill at home.
If this is the case, for the whole life line, you should never be planning to visit the place your future MIL/FIL suggested, not even for just a step.

3) be your own,just trust your instinct and take the decision.

Beware of false case by these kind of controlling freaks.. Learn laws related to IPC 498a(BNS 85), DV act, CRPC 125(BNSS 144).
Handle the monetory transactions carefully.

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