Yet another friend/colleague got engaged this weekend. It’s become impossible to celebrate people’s relationships. I’m a POC woman and I’ve been single since coming to the US 10 yrs ago. A handful of men have been interested but they were not Christian or back in my country. So many childless, single women in my church and I’m terrified I’ll be them soon. My non-Christian family doesn’t understand why I’ll only date Christians, or the dating scene in big cities, so they put pressure on me

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I feel the same way!! Christian dating is tough 😔

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Be encouraged OP - I know you've probably heard this a lot but God has his timing. We know all things work out for good to those who love God (Rom 8:28). I'm an Asian male and was single all my life til 25 and then God prepared the right person for me.

On a seperate note, I wouldn't rule out non Christian Completely. Some advice given by an elder i respect once recommended that as a woman you typically have more control in how the relationship goes because the guy is the one pursuing you. As such, make that an emphasis on the first date. Say you're getting lunch or dinner, tell him that you typically pray before eating. During your prayer, pray for him and your potential relationship and that he could personally know Jesus Christ as his savior. If he's ok with that and not bothered or weirded out then you got a chance that the lord can save him through you and that a relationship could work out. If not, then things probably end after first date but you gave it a chance and maybe even sowed a seed for his future salvation.

I've seen a few sisters in my congregation do this and their husbands now are really fervent Jesus lovers. Hopefully you'll find it to be helpful. 🙏🏼

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@sr associate 2, completely agree that scripture does not state that dating a non-believer is a sin.. I would never want to advocate for that😂

At least in my experience, having a different belief system brings up more issues than needed. From small ones to big ones like how we're going to spend Sunday to different expectations in pre-marital sex

Dating in general requires a lot of prayers needed for both wisdom and patience in waiting 🙈

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Just started getting excited about this new guy I’m dating and feeling crushed after he vocalized the “universe / vibrations / who knows what’s right” talk. Back to square one. I feel you OP!

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I get the same pressure to date non Christians. I don’t have a good answer for you, but just wanted to let you know you’re not alone.

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What country are you from originally OP? Dont feel bad. If its one thing worse than being single is wishing you were. Im single myself and I get where your coming from.

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My family is from Nigeria. Although I was born in the US so I know where you are coming from. What city are you based in? Is it a major city?

Also are you focused on a specific denomination or do you not care.

Hi sister, God will take care of you! Jesus has the best. I pray for joy in this season of singleness and that the person will come before you know it

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Did you join any singles youth group or maybe a coed small group? Maybe also try COffee meets bagel

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Not sure how helpful this is but I met my wife at a bar and neither one of us said we were mass attending Catholics until a month into dating. We both had “something to do” each Sunday morning. Sadly it didn’t come up until she saw a rosary and Mary statute in my sock drawer that I had hid because I didn’t want to come across as the “weird Catholic guy”

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