Hooked up with my ex today. Something about the holidays really tends to bring out my self-destructive tendencies.

Well, I was the one who broke it off. I couldn’t get him to love me the way I needed or even respect me enough. It’s been 6 weeks of not seeing each other. We messaged this week. He doesn’t get it…. His messages show he still doesn’t know what he wants. Yet, if I am totally honest, I hate how part of me wishes he would do a grand gesture/finally decide to be a better man. It’s delusional. It’s crazy how love can be so rosy, sweet & blinding that the red flags seem surmountable.

Appointment for marriage license seems unavailable on Project Cupid entirely. Anybody know why or have tips? We’re looking to get married early July… (finally pulling the trigger after waiting for pandemic to go away)

For those that are home grown (at least 2 levels) into the PPMD level, how has your relationship with juniors that you’ve been close to from the start evolved? Have you had to pull away from them (intentionally or not) or are you just as close? Is the saying “it’s lonely at the top” rung true for you?

I have strong feelings for my friend who also happens to be my superior at work. We also flirt with each other sometimes. I don’t know what to do.

My girlfriend of 4 years routinely gets so angry at me in the form of “triggers.” She has childhood trauma from her terrible parents. I’ve gone to therapy with her to learn techniques to help, but when I do them during one of her triggers she says I didn’t do them. Later I’ll learn that she’s literally does not remember things I say and do when she’s in a dissociated state. Tonight it was because I didn’t get her oil changed like I said I would. Now she’s threatening to break up because idk how

This is an emotional dump rn. It may be lack of social interaction but I'm really frustrated lately. I feel like I lost last 2.5 years of my life with ongoing lockdowns and job instability in the first half of the pandemic. I was 28 turing 31. I get good dates but -ve self talk
Inflation is high & coming from a low income family where you're supposed to help your parents is driving me nuts. Although I make a good salary, after rent, car insurance, there isn't much left (unfav currency exchange)

My dad who lives in Asia just announced that he had a medical issue. I’m starting to enter the age where I’m going to take care of him financially. It’s a $2,000 hospital bill which in the US is nothing compared to what it represents there (which he can’t afford). He’s going to be fine! Just wanted to share with this group as many of you can understand what it feels like to support your parents when they’re old, not the other way around. I feel so blessed I can help him. 🙏🏽

Anyone here want to be a friend can ping me..

I’m in SF but nervous to officially come out to my friends even though I’m sure they all know/assume anyway. :(

How do u love or hate ur filipino mom in laws? What are the traits to watch out for?

Perspective: monogamy is anti-human nature; in this era where each parent could raise a kid independently, marriage tends to be a shackle on many aspects of life. We live once, why does society expect us to live with 1 person for 60+ years? No wonder divorce rates are through the roof!

I low key miss fridays in the office because I don’t know how to make new friends as a 26 year old

I love living in Miami, but have found it incredibly difficult to make friends. I had a thriving social life/ friend group in Chicago. Anyone else finding it hard to build friendships here?

I'm going from working at a non IT industry to an IT firm. As an introvert I've faced a lot of difficulty in my career... Now since I'm also shifting to another industry completely, I'm feeling very insecure about my life at work. Please give me tips on how to make friends and be in the good books of the managers.

I still think of my ex. It’s been 9 months since our breakup. He cheated on me and although I walked away and never looked back, I still wonder how life is treating him. I know I deserve better. Sigh.

Hi everyone, realizing my career may be incompatible with my needs at home (I have a school age child with special needs). Any moms/dads find any companies or jobs in the UX field that are part time? I am wondering if it’s possible to stay in this field or if I need to take a step back and figure out something new. What has worked for any of the working moms/dads out there. I need to be free from 2pm onwards.

How many married professionals with young families are just sticking it out “for the kids”? Marriage is very dead and has been for a while. Young kids 4 and 1. My wife and I don’t fight, but share 0 interests outside of the kids and can’t stand to be around each other. I’m so ready to leave… I just can’t bear the thought of doing it to my children even though another part of me feels like wife and I would both be better parents if our lives were separate. Anyone else done a similar analysis?

Women- if your husband says he fantizes about xyz actresses and models- how would you feel?

First time Dad and my 15 month old keeps running up the stairs at my in-laws place and they keep encouraging it. Stairs are almost 10 inches high with nothing underneath and I’m worried that he might slip and fall in between the stairs. My FIL is a bit of a know-it-all and keeps insisting it’s safe and I don’t agree. What do I do? Don’t want to fight the entire house full of people about this and kid enjoys it too much and cries a lot if I/we prevent him from climbing

“Don’t worry about the budget. If we like the idea, we’ll find the money.”

Has anybody ever found that money?

Buying a Cathay Pacific Economy flight, am AA Platinum, can I use AA miles to upgrade my CX flight?

Friend has a United club pass expiring 6/30. Anyone interested in buying it?

I am currently showing 800 days and 9 years elite. Anyone know if this year is included in that if I have 50 nights? Right on the border for lifetime platinum premier elite and I want it!!!

Best US bachelor party locations? Nature trip where we can rent a sick Airbnb and be in the woods. Something like Asheville NC, but not Asheville.

I love what I do and I have an offer to stay in International Development and be a manager with 86k, focusing on my technical area + lots of travel. But I also have offers from Deloitte and EY to be a GPS consultant at ~100k. Is it worth it to move to D or EY? Have personal financial goals that i need to reach for my family and thats why i started considering EY and D.

Traveling to Montreal tomorrow, any recs for food / sights / etc.? 🙏

Any travel opportunities at Tredence?

Damnnn... The Surgeon's cut on Netflix has Dr.Devi Shetty, such a proud moment that world's getting to see this person from Bangalore who's redefined the health sector.

Good evening Everyone, I have been a PSR for 10 years with the same company, but worked for 5 different practices. Was looking to move up in our company but from what I’m understanding, we have to have a degree in management. How would I go about trying to move up in and out of my position without a degree?

Hi everyone! I’d love to hear your thoughts on EEO surveys during the job application process. Is it more beneficial to self-disclose or refrain from disclosing race, gender, disability, etc?

Which method is more likely to get your application noticed? Any guidance would be helpful on my job hunt. Thank you.

Hello Fishes,

Any idea when we get relieving letter/service certificate from TCS?

My LWD was 16th September and I received FNF 10 days before. Also got initial release letter on my LWD.

I see so many issues in this organisation.
When I joined TCS after 5 days of joining they used to mail me every week for 5 continuous weeks and asked me every time for previous organisation relieving letter.
But they themselves don’t share it and delay a lot.


Anyone please advise.

Time to party, bring in the booze, because we already got the peanuts.

Hi,
Planning to visit wonderla Bangalore, just wondering where can we get employee benefits. In my last organization there were setnof restaurant, amusement parks which had off on my ID.

Hi

Is anyone able to access prudent mediassist portal to submit claim after new entollment ?

Hi friends,,
How many are going to Chennai ofc in Taramani.. i will be joining coming Monday

Our crackhead: starts a successful company, employing 1500 and manufacturing in the USA.

Their crackhead: uses his last name to enrich himself and his family, and sell access to the White House.

Yesterday I made a blanket fort with my husband and we watched a movie and ate ice cream. Yes, it was awesome.

I feel like being gay just adds another layer of difficulty while trying to date in consulting.

How many of you are in an interracial relationship? And what are yours and your partner's ethnicities?Just wanted to do a quick poll :)

Me? I was just buying shirts online and then immediately added underwear because the model wearing them was hot because I am gay.

Why are the lesbian bars so few in the US? I am loving the only lesbian bar in Houston, but I need variety. Can you actually meet girls well at a traditional gay bar? F/25/Houston here

So hard to date while being a consultant. Any luck fellow fish ?

How do you shave/trim your beard without dropping the hair in the sink or on the floor? 🙏

Blow me one last kiss 😘

My brother-in-law (age 30) told us recently that he is transgender. How can we support him? (‘Him’ as we haven’t discussed pronouns yet). It was a surprise to us!

Dealing with my firm's Foreign Accounts Payable team and keep snickering at the FAP acronym 😋

I feel like when I’m busy with work, I don’t even want to reply to attractive guys. Is this normal?

Being forced onto banking project with no finance background or cultural leanings—tips? 🥴

Best experience at a gay bar?

I’m in SF but nervous to officially come out to my friends even though I’m sure they all know/assume anyway. :(

Has anyone been with someone with a really small one? What was your experience like? I recently started seeing someone with the tiniest one I’ve ever seen (like an inch). I’m ok with it, but he’s clearly insecure and I want to be understanding

Ally here. What do I say to someone who refuses to stop confusing gender identity and sexual orientation? The usual examples don't help.

Hooked up with a guy I really like in Montreal, too bad I live in the States :(

Matched with a guy on Tinder. Had a great first date. We are stilling chatting on WhatsApp. But he has disappeared from my tinder (presumably, he unmatched with me). Is it typical for ppl to unmatch on Tinder when they are still interested in you?