Went to a funeral today, wife’s oldest friend 42 non smoker, non drinker, did yoga and was a vegetarian and probably the nicest person I have met… went back to the house husband wanted a drink opened a top shelf bottle cause why not? Sometimes the stuff we discuss here is so trivial but what I remembered today is open the good stuff, enjoy it with people you love and tell them you love them. Tomorrow is not guaranteed

Do you consider your in-laws family? For example, if your spouse’s sibling has children, do you consider those kids as your family or your spouse’s family?

I think I want to be in relationship, but I fear that I actually am just lonely and not actually ready for relationship.
I desperatly want someone that I can spend time with, laugh with, and tell good news to amongst so much else.
I don't know what to do or if anything can be done...

Thoughts anyone?

Anyone here 40s never married, no kids?

How personal is too personal for a SOP. I want to talk about how my aunts postpartum depression and consequent suicide shaped my career aspirations. Is that too personal/ would that be inappropriate to share?

Feeling a deep void in close human connection after letting go a relationship that was lacking a future (I was interested in something more, he was unsure). Can’t stop thinking of reaching out and need strength to just stay with the loneliness and have hope for the better times. Would appreciate support. It’s been 2 weeks but I feel bouts of extreme sadness and desire to have someone to share my life and days with.

An old uncle sit next to me in office and always pass gas.
How to deal?

Anyone here adopt a puppy during the infertility struggle? Husband and I considering it to have something positive throughout this situation and thinking the extra companionship would be helpful. I work from home. Husband has had many family dogs and lots of experience with it, I’ve had a family cat before. But not sure if it’s actually a good idea - wondering if it would truly help make us feel better and keep our minds off of the struggles or if it would just add extra stress. Thoughts?

GF is 32 and I’m 28. She wants kids within 2 years, understandably. I never envisioned having kids that early (more like late 30s), but I like her a lot. Anyone else gone through something similar?

Just venting. My husband is so much into watching his tv show that he is not at all interested in planning the baby shower or even in making the registry. It just feels that I am doing everything right now and his priorities are just around watching his TV show. I get that he needs his me time but our baby shower is few weeks away and we have not sent out the invite yet, do not have the registry finalized (I cannot do it as he wants to be involved or will make changes over my selection). Contd…

Ugh, is that time of year again! Does anyone have any advice on how to handle "friends" and family members who spout conspiracy theories to avoid getting the flu shot

My amazing boss is leaving. They have been a champion for me and the best leader I’ve ever had. I am devastated. I’ve usually had ok to not great managers so have never experienced this feeling before. It’s like im going through the stages of grief. Having a great leader has been like oxygen. The difference for my mental health is like night and day. I remember how my life was when I had a not great manager and I just can’t go back to that. Any words of wisdom or advice? I feel lost and alone.

One of my friends has been given a choice, to work with an extremely outrageous target or to leave the firm. If he chooses to stay, he will be bound to serve a total time of 6 months. And if he refuses, tomorrow will be his last day, what can I suggest to him?

It's a critical decision and he is overwhelmed by this sudden obstacle. Any leads would be helpful.

I’m hoping to steer clear of any scams by posting & I know it’s been posted before but, again, scams. Anyway, I am looking for something that can be done remotely on nights and weekends after I get home from my daily in-office job. My sister passed away & I’m now helping raise her kids. With Christmas coming, I’m nervous and dreading the season not only to not have her but will I make it a happy one for the kids. I need extra income but need to be home with them in the evenings.

I’ve had to step away from social media for my own mental sanity as I have a major issue with comparing myself to peers when it comes to life stages. (Single female, 34, never married, no male prospects, dog mom.) As a result, I feel like I’m doing a disservice to myself professionally as social media is a HUGE communication channel. Any advice on staying away or including it in my life in healthy ways?

Do you go through your SO’s phone? If so how regularly and do they know about it?

Well, I was the one who broke it off. I couldn’t get him to love me the way I needed or even respect me enough. It’s been 6 weeks of not seeing each other. We messaged this week. He doesn’t get it…. His messages show he still doesn’t know what he wants. Yet, if I am totally honest, I hate how part of me wishes he would do a grand gesture/finally decide to be a better man. It’s delusional. It’s crazy how love can be so rosy, sweet & blinding that the red flags seem surmountable.

Here to tell you guys that each of us mending from either leaving a bad relationship or having some leave us: things are going to be amazing for us! I believe if for myself and I am so happy! And meeting new people is FUN. Laughing with friends and being yourself, away from all the drama, pain. Liberate yourself by deciding this breakup is your evolution into your best self!

Actual friends with co workers?

Does anyone else feel like having kids is the only acceptable reason to not be in the office 24/7? If I choose not to have children, do I not have any valid reason to have a life outside work?

Anyone the only single family members with a flexible job that always gets called upon to help everyone out? Watch kids/sick parents, travel to vs being visited?
It’s like your 2nd class in the fam 😔

Advice on taking the SHRM-SCP exam? I’m taking the exam tomorrow and not feeling as prepared as I should. Who has taken the SCP exam? How difficult did you find it?

Is anyone a member of the SHRM Executive Network and do you see any value in your membership?

What other careers do you catch yourself daydreaming about? I, for one, would have loved acting as I loved theater throughout my life but alas fate had other plans. What's yours?

Highest paying agencies for search manager or sr search analyst in Chicago?

Account Manager: Look, I get it, you’re one of those hip white-sneaker-wearing creatives, but I know what the client really wants...

Hi fishes,
Anyone have hybris knowledge based on java springboot. Please let me know.

Any senior writers looking in NY? Send me your books.

Where is the sustainability sector headed in the Middle East, project wise?

Ares management or Carlyle?

I’m a first-year MBB analyst. My dream role is helping energy / climate tech companies grow (more interested in ops/strategic work than in cutting checks). Are there funds that might be a good fit?

How do you prepare for portfolio operations/value creation interviews?

Any resources/tips are really appreciated!

Hello,

I am a software test analyst and a BA, I am interested to grab a onsite opportunity with a visa sponsorship could someone please guide me with a valid platform.

Hello All,


Is it possible to get the notice period reduced in any manner? Buyout is not an option that’s available. But is there any other way? Maybe by utilising the remaining earned leaves?

Thanks

Off topic
I have been trying to activate the material ledger but it throws this error: ml currencies are not allowed in fi

* I have maintained the controlling group, assigned to CC. 10 maintained
* In ledger, my local and global currency is 10 and 10
* Material ledger type is 9000 (currency 10: company code)

Struggling for 2 days now. Unable to identify the issue

I really wanna work with/consult for biotech startups ☹️ Struggling to make the right connections and making people want to want me. Infact struggling to find those startups at all. What to do?

Does optum provide any learning site access for free example udemy etc

Hello! I am moving from NYC to Dallas in a few months. I currently don’t own a car so I am researching now on what vehicle to lease for the next 3 years. I’ve been told from someone who lives in Texas that it is not safe to get a small car because the roads there are “rough” and that most drivers own suvs or trucks and drive really fast on the highways. I am originally from Miami—I don’t know how much worse the drivers can be? Lol. Would it be bad idea to get a Mini Cooper?

Hi everyone,

I just graduated from my bachelors and I have received an offer for 3k per month (incl bonus) from Accenture in tech consulting (level 11), which was my top choice. However, I am not very satisfied with the pay so I wanted to ask:
1. I might also get offers from PwC or Deloitte, are they likely to pay more?
2. Is that enough to live a comfortable life in Amsterdam Zuid?

Hi Fishers,
I have an offer of 13LPA + 3 L variable (yoe -3.5) Can someone tell me the work life balance and regarding the hike cycle in societe generale .
Also when I can expect variable pay ?

My friend’s dad was a firefighter during 9/11 who died very young because of lung cancer. He was one of those who were denied coverage. She was just having a really hard time this week. Her boss knows this and told her last Friday with a straight face that she’s sulking. Some of these VC people man.

Idk who needs to hear this, but…

Just because someone disagrees with your perspective, it does not automatically mean they’re gaslighting you.

My car that I purchased in 2020 has been the best performing asset I own right now

I am drunk. AMA

Bored as heck in my relationship. We barley talk. Don’t do anything together, just watch TV every night and on weekends…. What do you do with ur partner? Do y’all even have anything to talk about? I hope this isn’t how a long term relationship is supposed to be I cannot spend another 50 years doing this

I hurt. I feel like I can never do enough to get ahead. Can't seem to land a new job to make enough money to survive. And as a man whenever I talk to someone about how I'm feeling all I get is, "Welcome to being a husband and father!" Every 1 step forward I try and take i get pushed 2 steps back. Feeling incapable.

Tips for someone that’s trying to get pregnant but struggling with fertility issues

Just starting The Office once again. This is endorphins for my brain!

Teeny confession/victory, but today I successfully folded hospital corners for the first time...at the age of twenty seven, I’m finally on par with an eight year old at bed making skills.

My back hurts so I’ve been laying on the floor looking at Fishbowl all day instead of doing my job.

Anyone have any good office chair recos for sedentary potatoes that wfh?

How many of you do some bicep curls before going out on a date?

I’m afraid I’m emotionally unavailable and that by the time I figure out how to be emotionally available I’ll have lost the good guy I’m currently with. I love this guy with my head but not my heart. But also my heart feels dead in general so 🫠. I’m already in therapy. What if this is as far as I can go in terms of emotional capacity? I am stressed.

That is all.

Been broken up for awhile..dated other people and developed serious feelings for someone else. It didn’t work out but I thought I had moved on till my ex moved to the same city and we started hanging out since I was helping them settle in. Saw we changed so much..in a good way and got along so well Yesterday he pocket dialed me nonstop and I heard his date even when I didn’t want to. I felt bad and now I’m questioning if I never really moved on.. it sucks how much it hurts even now after 2 years

Why I could never be a manager:
If one of my reports called me and cried, I would hang up on them. Can’t deal with that.

Why are some people willing to do anything / obsessed about getting the green card in the U.S.?

When I asked them, they usually say they like American lifestyle. I love lifestyle in France, but I was in France, I was OK if I can't stay. Just trying to understand here so that I can have more empathy.

What’s the best advice you’ve ever received? Life or career wise

Online dating apps are a mess 🤢

How old were you when you first took a blue pill/viagra? Currently 26 and a buddy doesn’t stop raving about it, tempted but feels too young to try?