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I didn’t go through an intervention, but my family was literally like, we are going to have to disassociate with you and we’re not going to enable you anymore. I had just gotten my second DUI, lost my relationship, started hopping beds, was hospitalized twice for pancreatitis within 6 weeks of each other.
It wasn’t until I decided that it was time to do something is when I went into detox and rehab, then did the aftercare in PHP and IOP w/ sober living. Fortunately I live in a state that classifies addiction as a disability and I was compensated at 90% from the state, was really more like 40% due to the cap, but still paid some bills.
I haven’t had a drink or touched drugs in 7 months. I don’t follow a program (AA, SMART, etc), I was on Naltrexone, but had to part with it for pain management purposes following surgery where they prescribed me opioids, never abused it like I have in the past, and never went back to the Naltrexone; I just don’t have the desire to use anymore.
I guess moral of the story is he’s not going to stop until he is ready to. I will tell you what the hardest thing for me was… I had an identity crisis, that’s what I was most afraid of. I thought I wouldn’t be fun anymore, wouldn’t be funny anymore, wouldn’t think as broadly as I once did. All of which turned out to be false. So maybe you could start with that. Maybe ask him if he can see a reality where he’s sober, and if not, dig into the why. There has to be a reason he is doing what he’s doing, it could be childhood trauma (it’s incredible how many addicts can track back to this) or his attachment style, but a qualified psychologist can help him with that. Therapy was the best thing to happen to me, it worked wonders, I have a psychiatrist for med management, a psychologist to help me with childhood trauma and better understanding my attachment style, and a couples therapist for my re-budded relationship with my ex.
I hope this helps, or at the very least makes some sense.
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I’m an interventionist with a number of successes. However, what the other people have written this true. If someone’s not ready, they’re not ready. The point of an intervention is to get the identifying patient in a room and for the family to have letters written. Not to devuate from what’s written the letter and then the Interventionist, who will have a bed available for him at a treatment center. Will ask him/her if he will to go. If he doe not, the family reads another letter. A consequence letter and it has to have weight. How they will deal with him, or not, if he does not take help today. It’s said that someone has to reach their bottom to get help. The redeeming thing of an Intervention is that it helps to raise that bottom.