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Wrongly? Take stock of your actions and evaluate where you can improve. I have seen very difficult female bosses in the workplace so I wouldn’t dismiss it as ‘wrongly’
Then you’re 100% misaligned. For you to have been ‘nothing but kind and supportive’ and she thinks you made the environment toxic should be a big concern. Looks like you need some awareness and wake up call. Others might be having the same feedback on you so definitely check in on your actions.
We need more female lifters and builders not the opposite. Goodluck!
Well, did you *contribute* to her perceived toxicity even if out of force from your superiors? Perhaps she isn’t differentiating the different people and politics at play.
She likely won’t offer any further explanation so that she can leave professionally. Better to not say anything sometimes if you’re on the other side of it.
I been there & quit as well. I’m sure she told this to HR. Maybe, reach out to them & ask. Or they might have an interview with you based on her exit interview. Actually, she dodged a bullet. Mental health is serious right now.
You're right! Thanks for sharing
I think it’s always worth it to think back to past conversations you’ve had with people and try to see where it may have gone wrong from their end. Obviously without any more information it’s hard for us to tell you whether it was wrongful or not. Especially since you’re a director and this was an employee I’m assuming there is a bit of an age difference and with that comes a generational difference. What’s toxic to a 20 something may be normalized to a 40 something.
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I am amazed by what constitutes a toxic workplace these days - especially when the term toxic is thrown around so lightly with no evidence or concrete rationalization to back up the complaint. Let it go and move on, if you feel you contributed to this in anyway, make amends or be mindful in the future in order to not repeat past behavior.
Toxic is in the eye of the beholder. Usually the people who are the cause of the toxicity don't see it. I previously to where I work now ,was in an extremely toxic environment. We had managers who were sexually harassing/ assaulting subordinates. And when it was reported little to nothing was done. The same managers would run around the like they were untouchable And one excerpt there there untouchable status with all the staff making for hostility on top of the fact that we all know what they did because they decided to record it, And it got around... They were transferred from one location to the other for them to do it there too while all while the first location thought they got fired.
In the first location there were two teams that had a crossover day and the two teams hated each other that on their crossover day one of the managers got stuck in an elevator I want somebody from the second team realized that it was a manager from the first team, The response was f***em! No matter what your feelings are for somebody else on your team, we all work for the same company. You probably shouldn't say that in front of the associates, And expect us to have any respect for you.
There were lots of incidents like this over the years which just made it absolutely disgusting to work there. And management was treated just as bad by upper management . I literally walked into an office one day to ask a question. They were having a meeting and on the phone their supervisor was asking them why they were failing at what they were doing and why they were such a failure . I literally stood there And asked is that how they talk to you guys all the time ? And made me question wanting to move up .However, if you ask any of these people involved, They were not part of the toxicity. They were the best ones there... The toxicity was "perceived."
The feeling down is a normal, human reaction to this.
Knowing me, I would be probably trying to watch a funny movie or tv show and then get a good night’s rest. Let your brain do some thinking while you are doing something else.
Then when you aren’t feeling as triggered, think through possible scenarios and see if HR has any feedback.
If you aren’t getting any feedback, then I would try going to 16 personalities. Maybe it is just a personality conflict.
This is such a great response. Thanks so much!
If you have other direct reports, I would ask HR if they can initiate a 360 review for you and, if warranted, provide you with a coach.
Sure, love the idea