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I’m going to get yelled and abused for this, I would spank the kid.
Yes may cause psychological issues and yada yada, but I grew up fine so did my sister and most of my friends.
Full disclosure, I am Indian, this was and is still acceptable in india ( may shock folks here or not), but it works.
Yeah that’s my question!! There is so much extreme in the conversation.
My son has been diagnosed with sensory processing issues, executive functioning issues and ADD. The quarantine is particularly difficult on kids who need a routine - which is most kids with attention issues.
A few things to consider:
1) exercise is non negotiable. Get him a pair of running shoes and go jogging with him every day. Like...every day. Maybe even twice per day. Do you have a basketball hoop? Can he hit tennis balls against the wall? Can he carry heavy piles of books from one end of the house to the other?
2) if someone is screaming, you’ve already lost control. Don’t scream - don’t engage. Walk away. I realize this can be easier said than done, but no one wins if it becomes a screaming match. Just don’t engage. Leave the room, leave the house - know your own triggers and do not engage.
3) Time outs don’t work for some kids, including mine. When my son acted up, I would make him do jumping jacks or sprints. His teachers did the same.
4) if this is something chemical, watch what and when he eats. If his blood sugar is spiking and crashing, it’s going to make things much worse. Don’t let him eat total junk and make sure he’s eating on a regular basis.
This, just this.
I thank my dad for a few good whooping when I deserved it. The effect of getting punished when I did something bad helped me balance my act later on in life. Just don’t beat the kid. Every family is different, Ur the parents and know the little details.
Hi OP if nothing else is working then I suggest seek help from a psychiatrist have virtual therapy sessions with your kids and if medication is required to ease out the anxiety then that’s what your kid needs. A ten year old boy understands some stuff but not all of it, does your kid feel sorry after he has shown his violent outbursts. Are you always asking him to be this do that, kids with anger issues do not like to be told that.
Growing up my brother was quite violent but being with me used to calm him (6 years younger to him) dad used to spank him but that made him more angry, my mother used to play soothing music, we watched few comedy shows together and above all even after his angry outbursts we just treated him normal. Nobody picked up after him and eventually he would come to senses. This was very stressful for all of us and looking back I can see how easy it might have been if it wasn’t so!
But end of day family is family.. we are all in it together and only with patience love and care things can be calmed. When your kid is not angry try to do some fun activity with him that should definitely soothe things out. Pray and teach him the power of prayer and live🙏
In addition to the psychological help, also look into getting an appointment with a Developmental Pediatric doctor or practice. Our 7 yo has seen one for years and it has helped tremendously, as they can also look into any medical issues as well as behavioral.
I live in Philadelphia and we go to the group at CHOP. They have prescribed minimal amounts of Ritalin and Tenex and they did wonders for him. We held off as long as possible with the meds but realized we needed to try and are glad we did.
I don’t have kids but good lord the behavioral challenges, specialists, therapists, etc mentioned in this post sounds so exhausting. And I don’t mean that in a rude way to anyone at all!!! Quite the opposite actually, just that it adds one more insanely complex thing to deal with on top being a working parent and kudos to you all for doing your best and trying.
Serious question though: I’ve never heard of half the diagnoses mentioned in this thread... also hear autism diagnoses rather frequent too. So are the types of issues discussed on this thread common for parents to deal with these days? Feel like I would’ve noticed even in elementary school if a classmate were exhibiting some of the qualities mentioned above, but don’t recall anything substantial. Maybe one kid in a class might have trouble concentrating or something, but the teacher worked with him a little more closely.
Genuinely just trying to get a better understanding of what’s going on - like has something in society changed that’s causing increases in behavioral changes in kids across the board?
Nothing has changed in society to cause kids this way, from what I've read. Certainly, there are numerous studies debating whether easier access to technology has exacerbated children's behavior (due to more stimulus, instant gratification, etc) but I can't say to that. Most importantly, what I really think has happened is that this conversation and discussion has become much more common between parents, professionals, etc, with a lot more science capable of helping diagnose kids, which is why we see it much more often.
Bad behavior = loss of privileges. And stick to it
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Spankings .... former black child here
If the behavior change was relatively sudden, you should consider the possibility that they went through something traumatic. I hope to god not.
If they are an asshole, spank away. I was a jerk when I was a kid and caught the occasional spanking from the ‘rents. Have had a happy life so far. Still love parents. Never needed therapy.
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Feel free to DM me. My wife is a special education teacher who specializes with behavior disabilities/issues.