Hi, Anyone who can help in Rehab related queries.

We admitted our father to Rehab last month to break the chain as he was drinking without eating for 3 days.

Now when he came back, we forced him to go for AA meetings like he did 2 years back. But just after 2 days instead of recognising his mistakes he thought of fleeing from the house. Now even though there is peace in house but he has been staying in some other city. Needed guidance on the next steps.

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My mother is an alcoholic and no “forcing” ever worked on her. I recommend looking into Al-Anon

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What’s Al anon

Go to Al anon. There's nothing you can do unless he wants to change.

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"Alcoholics Anonymous is a program for people who want it, not people who need it."

Your Dad suffers from a delusion that alcohol isn't the problem, he quite literally does not think that at he needs to stop drinking with the same strong belief that tells him his name is "Steve." Nobody is going to convince him that his name is Earl any easier that they will say the right combination of words to get him to want to get sober.

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I’m sorry you’re going through this. Like others have said, Al Anon or ACA (ACoA) could help you find some peace and comfort. We can never fix, control, or change the mind and behaviors of an addict/alcoholic - all we can do is recognize that their disease is also making us sick and that our sickness also needs to be treated.

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