Hi Fellow Fishes! I need some urgent advice. I had accepted a job offer at a really good company with a good role and team. I am due to start that new job on Monday 30th Aug. Now the thing is I have a better job offer from one of my dream companies-i would be really stupid not to take that offer. So I would be declining the job at the first company just 2 days before i am supposed to start! I know its a good problem to have but a very unpleasant conversation with them. How do i soften the blow?

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There is no softening. Tell them it’s a dream role and you’d love with regret if you didn’t pursue it. But they will still be pissed. If you can provide them a good lead for who can take the spot you are leaving then pass that along. Rip the bandaid, and do it ASAP! Good luck.

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Seconding this. They will definitely feel "betrayed" and the thing is, it's understandable. So just put as much positivity in your conversation with them, thank them, then apologize.

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