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Download the aa meeting finder app, go to a meeting, tell them it's your first one, and do what they say. Don't be weirded out if they ask for your number. It's part of the deal to stay in touch. Offer up your number too. For getting started 1. Don't drink 2. Go to meetings 3. Ask for help. There is a solution.

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Thank you

That's precisely what I did, while not even sure that I wanted to stay sober long-term. Here it is 13 years later and I haven't had a drink.

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Thank you, this is very encouraging

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Get a sponsor. I tried many times without a sponsor and I failed. It’s sticking with a sponsor. There are also many online meetings that I attend when traveling. Change some habits and environment. This is a great opportunity to be the best version of yourself. Good luck!!

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Thank you 🙏

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