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Download the aa meeting finder app, go to a meeting, tell them it's your first one, and do what they say. Don't be weirded out if they ask for your number. It's part of the deal to stay in touch. Offer up your number too. For getting started 1. Don't drink 2. Go to meetings 3. Ask for help. There is a solution.

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Thank you

That's precisely what I did, while not even sure that I wanted to stay sober long-term. Here it is 13 years later and I haven't had a drink.

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Thank you, this is very encouraging

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Get a sponsor. I tried many times without a sponsor and I failed. It’s sticking with a sponsor. There are also many online meetings that I attend when traveling. Change some habits and environment. This is a great opportunity to be the best version of yourself. Good luck!!

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Thank you 🙏

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Sharing some thoughts I’ve had lately:

The end of my suffering occurs with the death of my ego. I am reborn when I surrender to life exactly as it is, right at this moment (and it’s always “this moment”). I can begin to grow when I either accept life as it is, or I change my life because I can’t accept it. The better I become at surrender and acceptance, the more I experience serenity. After a long enough time I realize I’ve had a spiritual awakening. Now I am peace / joy / love.

☮️ 😊❤️

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