How do you deal with someone undermining you? Started new role at Xmas, buy side fund, analyst 3yr equities exp, 3yr other investment exp. Female. CFA charterholder. SA will say aggressively model section all wrong after barely reading through it, have to talk him through why that approach was necessary given figures available, and no apology on his mistake/rashness. Sends me articles titled for interns. Asked him not to include me in mails aimed at new junior starters, next day did it again.

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I’ve had the same issue, not in the way you are describing but generally being made less of. It’s frustrating. I think the only way to solve it, is by learning to navigate it socially. Playing the office game if you may. “Earning respect”. Though I prefer not to, it’s necessary when people try to pull you down. Standing your group. Jabbing back when you’re jabbed at (a fine line to walk). Being professional and competent. Having relationships across the organisation. Not acknowledging nasty behaviour like that email. I don’t think there is any clear cut rule sadly. One thing is for sure though, if you let people hold you down they’re not going to stop doing so.

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