How do you give feedback and criticism to your spouse?
They are the type who use the words during criticism as a weapon against you.

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Criticizing your spouse won’t get you far.

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Be nice, listen to their reasoning, and recommend other alternatives to guide them. People get defensive if they feel accused, berated, etc

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Make a PowerPoint slide

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Divorce immediately. You are better off without them.

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Present it in a way where it’s coming from a place of how that situation made you feel and you two can solution together to manage/navigate so that you can avoid that from happening again

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No don’t criticise. Listen to them and try to understand their POV before sharing yours. But come at it with the intent you want to solve it together rather than simply showing contempt and judgement against their character. It’s you two against the problem rather than you against them. (Source: me, who’s constantly criticised by my partner 😔)

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Words are easiest to weaponize when the statements are overbroad or untrue. Keep your statements precise and rigidly correct.

Use "I" statements. Don't make it about how your partner is wrong and your correcting them, make it about what YOU want/need.

Just STFU and nod approvingly.

Speaking from experience as the stronger vessel we must be mindful in how we engage with our other half. A lack of wisdom in our words can lead to bitterness, resentment, and emotional wounds that are difficult to heal.
Before offering correction, start by affirming her strengths. Highlight what she does well. Then, ask reflective questions that guide gently rather than accuse.
Some words and reactions can cut deeper than a dagger. And waking up next to someone you love, after harsh words have been exchanged, is a pain that lingers. Let's lead with love, humility, and grace.

I have found that the statement " You wish so your not all alone in the world", comes to mind in some situations. LoL 😂 but not my last words

Just don’t

Start with I statements. Never assume or accuse someone else because you can't read their mind or make their decisions for them. The only truths you know are your own.

Choose your words wisely and be direct, but not over the top. Just straight to the point. And if y'all have good communication then you have nothing to worry about.

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