I’ve been with my bf for 18 months and we have not said ‘I love you’ to one another. I keep hearing about how the best/healthiest relationships are a slow burn, you’re friends first, grow to love each other, etc. I’ve never been in a relationship as emotionally slow as this one. It feels like we are friends who sleep together. I can’t tell if it’s healthy or if we just have no emotional spark. Idk... I feel like wanting romance is not a bad thing, right?

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What's stopping you from saying it to him and/or bringing romance into the relationship?

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If you’ve never felt all mushy about your bf (google other ways of describing the “in love” feeling) - you probably aren’t in love. And most people know if they will fall in love within the first couple months. I would consider looking for a better fit.

With my SO, we felt super mushy for each other in the first couple months and would say things like “I’m crazy about you” and “I’m falling for you” and “you are special to me/I cherish you” and things like that before we said I love you around 3 months in. We also are great friends and have that deeper connection as well. You can find a guy who give you both feelings😊

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18 months is nothing. I didn’t tell my wife I loved her for over 3 years of dating. We’re still married 7 years in after 8 years of dating.

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