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What do you mean? Assertive about what? Don’t be a pompous ass and don’t be a doormat. If your a kid a year or two out of college don’t assume you know better than someone with 20 years at the firm.

If you are trying to show initiative - ask a lot of questions that show you are thinking about what the team is doing (not in front of the client please). If you have an idea on how to do something differently - you might try showing understanding of why something is done a certain way and asking “why couldn’t we do this X way instead”. Be prepared to be shot down sometimes and don’t get offended by it.

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