How would one navigate from a recent relationship to go about dating?
I am feeling exhausted and overly anxious. Any advice would help, 32F here.
Fellow women who can provide guidance are welcome.

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Be intentional, it’ll scare off all those not meant for you. Don’t be aggressive, bc no one likes that, irrespective of gender, but don’t be afraid to ask early on the important questions:

Religion, family desires, future ambitions and proactive steps in that direction, deal breakers, etc.

As far as meeting ppl, you can try apps, but be intentional! Try new hobbies. See if friends can set you up. If not, don’t be afraid to go to activities alone, think hiking (if you’re in a mountainous area), cafes, book stores, or wineries.

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Don’t. You aren’t healed yet. It’s not fair to use others’ hearts to help you heal. You should instead take up hobbies, spend time with friends, meditate, exercise, travel, do a bunch of other things until one day you’ll wake up feeling normal again. That’s when you are ready. It varies for everyone, but for a rough benchmark, estimate six months.

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100% this ☝️

Unless you're looking to date in a casual, blow-off-some-steam rebound fashion. Then yeah agree with others recommendations. Make sure you communicate your expectations clearly one way or another.

Well for one you don’t have to date anyone at all. If you’re not ready, do not try and force yourself. Two if you’re going to try the apps you need to be prepared to block with impunity.

Dry, forced conversation with low effort responses? Block. Not wanting to meet in public? Block. Arguing about consent? Block. Playing devil’s advocate about women’s rights? Block.

I see so many women try and keep things going with the most low effort men because they are afraid of being alone. When what they really need to do is block that man because he is blocking them from meeting their future spouse.

Check out the Burned Haystack Method. Also, get a Google phone number if you don’t have one already for safety.

If you’re not an introvert or vegan going to a steak place and sitting at the bar on a weeknight is a good place to meet men.

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well start from sessions with psychologist

I hear you. I'd say, don't rush things. These points will sound cliche, but: be happy with close friends first. Do things that make YOU happy. Take your time. Heal. Go order that Large Meal. Extra sauce? You betcha! Read those books you bought. Declutter. Try a new haircut. Go for a wine tasting. Eventually, everything will feel just right. Something that seemed "right" before, was taken away for a reason. It's because you deserve better. Take care.

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