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Sisters can be thee worst. I’ve been on the other end of a group of sisters. It’s horrible.
What kind of jobs do your sisters have that are so prestigious?
I mean we have many doctors, a couple university professors, one book author and even one lawyer- who cares? That is not something we rib each other on. I’m the lowest profession known to man per my father, a social worker lol
Go in w your chin up, put a smile on your face. Announce you have to leave early, just in case you get caught up in the weeds w your sisters. I feel your pain for sure bc I’ve been there. Good luck! You’ve got this!
My sisters don’t even all work, but the problem is my dad is still the “women should focus only on be mothers” types and doesn’t care what they do as long as they’re in steady relationships. I’ve known for a long time his attitude between me and them is night and day different. My sisters join in and talk about their husbands who work jobs that aren’t seen as “nerd” jobs. Dad is an old fashioned lawyer who always made fun of anything I do.
Thank you though. I’m just going to be on autopilot the whole time and try to drown out everything.
They are bullying the accomplishments of a software engineer!?!?! There is nothing to be made fun of other than some light teasing of being a nerd. Not getting into personal spaces, but perhaps there are other insecurities they are projecting on you. Do not let their comments define your personality or take a toll on your self image. If you go, just go spend time and shake off the negativity. Be proud of yourself and love life is overrated
Oh, man. You should let them know how AI is tanking white collar jobs where software engineers could maybe torpedo lawyer careers.
Fundamentally, you have several choices
1 - Bite your tongue - They are petty, inconsequential people whose opinions are as passing as the breeze.
2 - Educate them - They clearly fail to understand progress and do not understand the value you create. Cast pearls before these swine.
3 - Let them be ignorant, let you focus on you - There are none so blind as those who will not see. They can believe your career is pointless. That is their opinion. You can believe in what you do, the future you build, and the path you forge.
4 - Walk away - If you value anything in the past, present, or desire a future, this is not an option. A temporary break also counts here.
Read the Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins.
You're a software engineer, and that's nothing to make fun of. It's not an easy career to break into, you should be proud of yourself and shouldn't take their nonsense to heart.
That said, it might be worth digging deeper and asking yourself what it is that really hurts you. What patterns did you see growing up that make you feel inferior enough to be hurt when they comment on your profession?