I got a $2,000 referral bonus for recommending my friend's husband. He thinks he deserves half of it because I wouldn't have gotten that bonus without him. Should I give him the money so I don't hurt the relationship with him and my friend?

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Ask him for half his annual salary in return

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I like this answer: yes indeedy!

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That's ridiculous. Think of it this way, if it damages or breaks the friendship, you filtered out a crappy friend and got paid for it. Win win.

When i get people jobs via recommendations, they give me gifts/ give me a treat me somehow, not all the way around.

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That may be a sign that he is not going to be a good employee. I would not give him a dime. tell his wife to explain that you did them a huge favor.

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Normally referral bonus would be only handed out after 6 months, how could a crazy person managed to survive 6 month is beyond me. LOL

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I was joking with a friend who referred me about splitting the referral bonus. His response was priceless:
“Absolutely — I’ll give you half of the referral bonus as long as you give me half of your salary and bonus increase. After all, my referral did move you to the front of the line for a job that increased your salary and bonus, so I should get my cut. Right!"

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When you use a recruiter and the company pays them for the referral, are you entitled to half of their commission? The answer is no, and if they insist or you lose them as a friend, lose them......you don't need friends like that.

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What a bizarre request. He got a job. Tell him that she will split the referral bonus with him, but that he will have to pay you a commission of one full month's salary for recommending him for the position - which presumably, was what he wanted in the first place.

Tell your friend that her husband is being a tool and she should consider her relationship with him.

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He should be grateful to have the position.

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You helped your friend get a job. They should also be thanking you!

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As others have already stated, that is absolutely ridiculous!
He should thank you for a referral that likely gave him a slightly better chance of being interviewed.

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NOOOOOO, thats your money

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Did you agree to make the referral in view of a kickback agreement? If you think you did, you may want to discuss it with legal counsel. The legal implications of such arrangements are highly contextual. Such a kickback agreement might be illegal or contrary to company policy. Transferring that money might jeopardize the bonus or your employment.

If you didn't have such an agreement, then no. A referral bonus is a thank-you to the employee, not a brokerage commission to be negotiated.

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No mam his reward is the job! He wouldn’t have it without you right ?

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I would straight up ignore him for life!

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100 % not. Absolutely no way.

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Bartender seasonal 1, getting the job was a good enough bonus for him. She owes him nothing period. Even if he doesn't get a sign on bonus, she still owes him nothing!! The audacity for anyone to think they are owed money from someone else's bonus for getting them blessed with a job

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I like the understanding my wife’s company has where if you bring someone on and get the referral money, you take that person out to a nice dinner. That’s it. Case closed.

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You are putting your reputation on the line for someone else. That type of risk certainly does not support giving him half of your referral bonus.

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No, he got a job with your help. If I were you, I’d be rethinking recommending him in the first place. If he lasts long enough, he can get his own referral a job and get his own bonus. I can’t believe he would even ask you for that. If it ruins your friendship, then that just tells you what it was all about in the first place, sadly.

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Why are you worried about hurting the relationship when he’s hurting it by demanding you give him half of your bonus? You helped him get the job by referring him and that’s a bonus for him in itself. It’s time for you to reevaluate your friendship with him and tell your friend how you feel about his demands. Keep your referral bonus to yourself.

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Why are you worried about hurting the relationship when he’s hurting it by demanding you give him half of your bonus? You helped him get the job by referring him and that’s a bonus for him in itself. It’s time for you to reevaluate your friendship with him and tell your friend how you feel about his demands. Keep your referral bonus to yourself.

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It's classy to treat someone to lunch when you bring them in that way, but not strictly necessary. Just a nice way to officially welcome them. Agree with other commenters that HE should be buying YOU a token gift, though. Bottle of wine or something is usually nice (if you drink).

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