I got a $2,000 referral bonus for recommending my friend's husband. He thinks he deserves half of it because I wouldn't have gotten that bonus without him. Should I give him the money so I don't hurt the relationship with him and my friend?

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Ask him for half his annual salary in return

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I like this answer: yes indeedy!

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That's ridiculous. Think of it this way, if it damages or breaks the friendship, you filtered out a crappy friend and got paid for it. Win win.

When i get people jobs via recommendations, they give me gifts/ give me a treat me somehow, not all the way around.

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That may be a sign that he is not going to be a good employee. I would not give him a dime. tell his wife to explain that you did them a huge favor.

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I feel that money belongs to you...

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As others have said, your recommendation is what likely got him the job if not his application placed on top of the stack and pushed through. Without you, there is a good chance that he wouldn't have been selected from the application pool. Unless your friend's husband was over qualified for the position and took a lesser job because he knew it would be helping you and your company out, then he doesn't deserve any portion of the bonus. If you two had agreed at the beginning that if he put you down as a reference and you split the bonus, then its on him. You helped him get a job through your good standing with the company. Honestly, I wish I had a variety of contacts at companies in the field I'm looking to apply to so that I could put their name down for referrel. If someone helped me get a job I applied for, then I'd be extremely grateful. Tell him that if he wants a bonus like yours, then he should refer someone.

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It's you job, it's your bonus.

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They shouldn’t even be asking! They should be thanking you for helping him get the job! I hope you don’t have to actually work with him or see him every day!

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Yuck...definitely don't pay him. And I'm sorry you now have to work with him.

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Obviously, this guy is a problem. You can make a huge statement by giving that $2000 to a charity for 100% tax credit and totally end the friendship with the creep in a quiet way. Send him a photo of the donation and tax credit. That way the tainted money is gone demonstrating both, how meaningless the money is and meaningless his friendship has become. If he gets upset about, that will be your second confirmation as to why you don’t need toxic people like him in your life. Just a thought. OR, keep the cash and don’t waste any more of your precious time with this guy. Good luck.

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Just saw this-absolutely not! You did him a favor. Referred candidates go to the top of the applicant pile in most cases.

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No. The only one that might hurt the relationship is either him or them. You're name was paid for him to get employment

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I agree with most of the comments but I see the situation.
Since this is your husbands friend have your husband decide on what to do.
A $1000 you can make back someday but can your husband lose this friend? Would not giving him the money cause issues in your marriage? Even if his friend is a jerk about this maybe hes not on other things?
So i would value that over other things. You will feel a bit unfair about the situation but on the bright-side you made out with 1k and your husband gets to keep his friend.
Ideally though your husband should tell ur friend jokingly that he isnt going to see a dime out of that 2k.

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No!! If he wanted your bonus then you had to agree with him from the beginning. I would split maybe a 10k but 2k is insane!!!

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It's your money! Do with it what makes you happy! You will be taxed 1 dollar out of every 5 ($400) for that

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would he have done the same thing if the roles were reversed?

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Absolutely not. His greed notwithstanding, that bonus is yours. His reward is to have a job that pays him instead of whatever he was doing before, whether he was unemployed or had a worse job (which, if his last job was better, why take this one?)

If it hurts the friendship, all because you won't give him some money, then the friendship wasn't great to begin with and you're better off without.

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Yes, I would half it with him.

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It's your money. It's a finder's fee, in a sense. You're recommending a person to your company and as a reward, your company is giving you a bonus. Hopefully your friend puts their husband in his place and let's him know your friendship together is worth a heck of a lot more than $1,000!

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Nope. keep it and tell him he should be happy you got him the job. Amen

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Tell him you're going to run it by HR first.

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If your friend, the wife is actually asking you to give half. She may not be your true friends. She should have stuck up for you with her husband. If you haven't received the bonus yet, you'll find that it'll be taxed heavily. ​ It will also reflect on your annual income to the IRS. It would be utterly ridiculous if they are serious about you sharing it.

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To be clear, you helped him get a job and he now wants you to give him $1000 ?

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The use of referral incentives in recruitment strategies is widespread, with up to 82% of organizations employing them. However, the specifics of these programs, including the exact payout amounts, eligibility rules, and waiting periods, are generally unknown and typically vary by company. Unfortunately, money can harm relationships, particularly when communication about the specifics is unclear. Nevertheless, the information you provided about the referral incentive is what determines the response to your question. In other words, did you create an expectation or engage in any communication regarding a referral incentive from your organization? The answer is not simple; however, it is contingent upon communication and relationships.

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