I have an extremely narcissistic and black and white thinker skip level boss. She expects everyone should understand her ask immediately and clearly. If you ask follow ups, it bothers her. Everyone in our team has same experiences with her. She reached out to me asking just to catch up and asked how best we can communicate. I was a bit surprised because I was skeptical why she asked that. Was it in good faith or is she trying to target me. I’m completely comfortable having an honest chat. Contd

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But she being narcissistic, I don’t trust her. I’m conceptual thinker and never had difficulty getting on same page with any level or different personalities. I ask questions to get to the ask and I’m guessing she doesn’t like that. It’s not that that I ask ton of questions and don’t deliver. She is a black and white thinker and very impatient and just expects people to understand her point black, it’s not even a hidden expectation. She asked for follow up chat. How best to proceed?

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I would let her know where I’m coming from and what I need in order to do the best job possible, and that yes…in order to do that I tend to ask follow up questions. Period!

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Stop asking questions - rather have others validate your point of view. Best for all parties involved.

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