I manage a man who keeps raising his voice at me. I’ve reported him to HR, my boss etc and they’re dealing with it supposedly among other issues I’m having with him. We need to have another meeting that I’m anticipating could be contentious. If someone raised their voice at you or cursed at you in a meeting would you feel comfortable walking out?

Posting as :
works at
You are currently posting as works at

Only have meetings with him when there is a 3rd person in the room. Even if you don’t need someone for a direct task in that meeting. You need witnesses. Yes to walking out as well if he raises his voice.

like

This alllll day. If he is going to pull these kinds of aggressive stunts, I would not put it past him to make your life hell in other ways. Always record or have a 3rd person in the meeting. Start documenting every single convo- feedback given, response, your response to him, next steps, etc.

Start building a documentation case for dismissal. He is unprofessional at best and dangerous at worst.

like

Walk out. It’s purely unprofessional and inappropriate. You don’t have to maintain presence in that situation… I would have meetings in conference rooms (not your office) so you can walk out.

Record this loser (assuming that’s legal to do where you work) and get him fired.

like

Yikes. This sounds like a very threatening situation and I have had a few colleagues who forget that they are at work and rattle off profanity, side comments, or behave as though it is acceptable to verbally abuse you in front of others. I always tried to take it in stride and not react but a few times I had to use the “it looks like this meeting is over” or “if you cannot control your temper” as a warning shots, so walking out is not unreasonable if the tone/tempo escalates. You don’t get paid to be verbally avoided or publicly disrespected. Hope this gets quickly addressed.

like

Yeah, true, but in reality, that does not hold up in most workplaces and most men cower when a line is crossed, so as much as I would love to file an HR complaint - you need to fully address what hill you are willing to die on in the workplace.

When someone who works for argues with me repeatedly I fire them for insubordination.

If it’s a colleague or my colleague’s direct, which has happened, I tell my colleague to fire them. And if they don’t, yes, I find a way to not work with them.

“Raising voice” can be subjective. It’s the words, not the volume, that will matter most if he contests the termination.

And yes, I’m comfortable walking out, hanging up on, or ignoring people who get overly emotional at work. Depending on the situation a cool off period sometimes works.

like

100%

I would not walk out I would send that person home without pay for the rest of the day! YOU manage HIM, not the other way around! But YES workplace violence is NOT tolerable and you should hold your ground. I think a male raising their voice as me on more than one occassion is a pattern of insubordination and starting to cause an intimidating and threatening/unsafe working environment. I would let him know STERNLY the next time it happens that he needs to lower his voice to an appropriate conversation level or he will be sent home immediately WITH a write up when he returns.
If he does not comply you do exactly what you threatened and SEND HIM HOME! If you do not hold firm you are enabling this behavior and teaching him it's ok and he will continue to get away with inappropriate behavior at work. NOt only are you teaching him it's ok to treat YOU this way but he could go on to believe it's ok to treat other women this way, which is NOT OK! Please do your part in correcting this inappropriate behavior before it continues and becomes an ingrained pattern in this person.

Turn the recording on the min you join the meeting. We have a bully (male) at work and had to request the meeting co-ordinators to turn audio recording on for his meetings. It’s been a huge deterrent to bad behaviors

Related Posts

My coworker constantly undermines me and makes me look bad in team meetings. Should I try and address this directly with them or should I go to my manager first?

like

Hey Guys,

Do you face any discrimination at your workplace if you reveal your identity. Or during interviews if they ask about your marital status post 30s?

like

Hello friends. Need your advice. I have an Indian director on my team who is great in every way but he constantly skips his articles in spoken English. When he writes they are there. For example…

like

Hi All! What pre boarding processes do you find most effective in your place of work to keep a new hire an engaged employee?

like

Overheard from another coworker that the person hired to be in charge of the entire campus had sexual harassment complaints made against them at their previous job, and apparently the reason one of our coworkers left is because he was making her feel uncomfortable. Thoughts?

like

For those who have onboarded remotely, have you found it difficult to connect with and embody your new company’s culture? Culture is important to me and a big part of it was being with your coworkers and having meaningless chit chat

like

Reps how do you handle when a producer requests reels from you then doesn’t watch a single one and completely ghosts you after submission?

like

off-topic:
in office have you seen any girl wear nosepin?

like

Am an executive assistant and There is one executive I support who is very annoying. He doesn't behave this way with backup admin assistants when am out of the office

How do you deal or work with such people?

like

Has anyone addressed their ADHD with their boss directly? For example, I have a really hard time with long meetings. I can’t sit still and pay attention and I wonder if sharing this with my boss would be helpful or if it would raise red flags. Funny enough, my job is very detail oriented.

Haunted by inaccurate performance assessment and its crippling my confidence. I’ve grown so much since, but 6 months later, the criticism of my old project manager stings.

like

I have a few interviews lined-up and wondering if it’s unprofessional to wear my nose ring on an interview? What are your thoughts?

like

Had anyone flexed in streetwear for their consulting engagements? I occasionally wore my Yeezy Triple Black 350s with my suit to the office, then changed into dress shoes at the office 😂

funny

My boss asked me to submit my career aspirations after bringing in someone in a new position over me. Is this a bill shit assignment? Has anyone else ever asked to do this?

like

What to do when you have a crush on your team lead?

like

I think there should be more males caretakers in this world. Some of my clients just feel more comfortable with a guy and it's kind of sad how often they say I'm the only male they could find.

like

I was on a tour but where I asked a couple of older women sitting behind me to speak softly as it was 6:30 am in the morning. After that they kept saying loudly that i’m smelling and that i need to use deo and that i should keep my arm down. I confronted them later and they said respect your elders?? I want to ruin their vacation. What else can I do?

funnylike

Does anyone else feel like people who are generally nice in person and on calls sound mean or stand-offish in emails and text/chat? I get that over-use of friendliness in text can come off as green/immature, but I tend to try and cushion my words with positivity or even exclamation marks/the occasional emoji to show that I don't sound completely unemotional.

Or maybe i'm just an overthinking copywriter who's reading into it too much.

like

Honest question here-hw do I work better with Indians who come over frm India(on-site) to client?My patience with them is at an all time low since they jst dnt gt the methodology & hate owning anythng

What’s something a guy has said in a meeting you could never pull off as a woman? I’ll go. One time a guy creative was presenting his work and said “yeah this was just me being lazy and not wanting to do any work” and he literally suggested we do the same ads as last year, with a different celebrity plugged in. CDs in the meeting laughed and considered it for a minute. If I had presented that and said I was being lazy, I would prob be put on the chopping block.

like

More Posts

Someone talk to me about Isobar and/or IA Collaborative. 👍👎❓

like

Kindly recommend some self help books!

like

My cat unplugged the tonal right after thr warm up so the HR info isn't accurate for the beginning. But oh well. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Post Photo
likeupliftingfunny

Any recommendations on brushing up on PowerPoint?

like

Hi all!
Want to break into IB in London (BB's and EB's) as an Associate.
Anyone willing to refer or can share any info?

Thanks!

like

Tax question: my SM changed my hours with a location I never worked at, from 2020. When I asked for a change, he is hesitant since it’s a long process. Would it cause any issue on visa if I filed a tax to a state I never worked in?

like

https://giveherabreak.org/ This replaces ads during the Oscars with films from female directors they ignored

like

Has optum called employees back mandatorily?

Is there any good reason to take a 10+ minute call in a bathroom stall at work? Noticing people doing this as RTO ramps up and I really don’t understand why you wouldn’t go outside or at least in your car.

My fiancé and I are planning to buy a home right around our wedding (we’d need to close next June). Has anyone heard of special programs we can look into? He’s military so we have VA Financing...

like

Hey everyone! Same as with you all, joined recently and would like to DM. Thanks!

like

Chances of another round of rioting and looting this Tuesday night?

like

www.anthonymejean.com

Thanks in advance! I haven’t had a lot of opportunity to do big campaign work, which is what I’m craving. Wondering if there’s a way to make my work look bigger without getting too cluttered.

like

My GF and I are dating for 2.5 yrs , She met an office colleague (he has a GF) recently who she initiated a friendship with. I feel that they interact a lot and I'm a little worried of her getting too close to him. A day ago she asked him for lunch and they were out for almost 4-5 hrs. When I expressed how I felt she keeps saying there's nothing going on. I feel that when start to get emotionally close to some other guy than SO then it's not a good sign in relationship. Am I overthinking? contd.

like

Anyone else keen to do a line of Cillit Bang after those comforting words from the leader of the free world?

likefunnysmart

Just want to be clear. You don’t have to mention race to be racists.

like

Mumbai office ka shuttle chaalu hua?

New to Fishbowl?

Download the Fishbowl app to
unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.
That was just a preview…
Sign Up to see all discussions
  • Discover what it’s like to work at companies from real professionals
  • Get candid advice from people in your field in a safe space
  • Chat and network with other professionals in your field
Sign up in seconds to unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.

Already a user?
Login here

Share

Embed this post

Copy and paste embed code on your site

Preview

Download the
Fishbowl app

See what’s happening in your industry
from the palm of your hand.

A phone with Fishbowl app

Scan your QR code to download
Fishbowl app on your mobile

Download app

Sign up for free to view this conversation on Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use and Privacy Policy

Already have an account? Log in

Sign up for free to continue using Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use(New) and Privacy Policy(New)
Messaging rates may apply

Already have an account? Log in

For account settings, visit Fishbowl on Desktop Browser or

General

Legal