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Just an FYI Gaetz also “raised” an immigrant child without any actual paperwork and is not a blood relative.
“Geatz did not formally adopt Nestor (and he declines to discuss Nestor’s relationship with his biological family now). He re-frames the matter, saying, “Our relationship as a family is defined by our love for each other, not by any paperwork.”
https://people.com/politics/matt-gaetz-tells-story-boy-he-raised-as-a-son/
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Met my husband at 30 after numerous failed relationships. Almost 5 years later we’re married with a baby. Don’t settle and trust it will come.
This is me too!! Don’t settle!
Had a terrible breakup at 29 with the guy I thought was going to be my forever one. 30 was a turnaround year and ended up being one of the best years of my life that far. Dated casually but didn't find anyone serious. Met my now-husband at 34 out of the blue, married him at 35, had a kid at 37 and now 40 and pregnant again.
Me five!
Just here to say I had my daughter at 40! We get along like sisters now that she’s 14.
Hold out for true love. Freeze your eggs. If true love does not strike in time, become a single mother. I married, became pregnant and divorced before my child was one. Best decision of my life.
Well to begin with 30 isn’t old. But try to remember it’s better not to be in a long term relationship that sucks, than to be single. Take your time! I’m 38 divorced, 2 kids, reallllllly shitty marriage. People meet in their 30s and 40s and 50s and find love.
Met my husband at 32. May want to freeze your eggs while you are young :)
I feel for you and understand exactly what you're going through. It is SUPER tough. After my college sweetheart dumped me in my early 20s, I spent the rest of my 20s being single and having short-term relationships. When I turned 30, I thought it was the end. I decided that I would just have to focus on my law career and get a bunch of cats. And I bought a condo close to the city in which I worked so that I would have a short commute.
Two weeks after I closed on my condo, I decided to go on a 20s/30s hike organized by a religious organization and on that hike, I met my future husband. We married 3 years later (I was 33), had our first kid when I was 34, and our second when I was 37. I ignored the pressure from my family who said my standards were too high and refused to settle. And when I was least expecting it (because I had stopped expecting it), I found my one. I hope you can have a similar experience!
In the end of 2018/ January 2019, I broke up with my boyfriend for 2 years who was married - not proud for dating a married man, but we knew each other since 2012 when he wasn’t married. We kept in touch during all these years non romantically, just as friends. When we reconnected, he convinced me everything is over between his life and him, and they are just living together as roommates until figure the divorce out. Well, it turned out that wasn’t exactly the case. After so much emotional drama and in middle of law school, I finally found the strength to end that relationship.
I started dating multiple guys during the next couple of months. I was 32 at the time. There was one guy I really liked but he was emotionally unavailable and still trying to figure out co-parenting with his ex life. Another one didn’t want kids. The rest of the guys I dated - the sparks just weren’t there. At some point, I was starting to accept that I might not find anyone and that’s totally fine. I had my summer pretty full - a summer associate position and a great internship for a federal judge and decided to focus on that. And then towards the end of June 2019, finally said yes to a Bumble date that I kept cancelling because of school work earlier in the year. Well, we had our first date on Monday, second date on Wednesday, third date on Friday and by Saturday we were inseparable. We moved in together in August and adopted a dog. Five months later, we were engaged and married eight months after our first date. I was 33 when we got married in 2020. We had our first baby a year later, and in 2023 we had our second. Now, I am 39 and we are considering a third baby. I never understood the words “when you know, you know” until I met my now husband. I am honestly so grateful it didn’t work out with all the jerks before him.
Enjoy this season of your life. It’s a beautiful time. Your partner will come when you least expect it.
I reconnected with an old bf when I was about 32, two years later we’re happily engaged, soon to be married and baby on the way. It’ll happen for you!! I was in an awful long term relationship at 30 and thought well this is it cause I’m getting “old”, sooo happy I did not accept that son of gun’s proposal.
Please don’t settle, take your time. The right person for you will enter your life when the time is right!
It sounds like you’re killing it in virtually every aspect of your life. Have you considered counseling to identify what it is that might be holding you back in the relationship area? Sometimes Counseling gets down to the nuts and bolts of things we don’t realize are holding us back. Just a thought.
Get a dating and/or mindset coach. If this matters to you, then it's time to figure out what is causing the gap between a worthwhile partner and you. You can afford it, and it will pay dividends even in other parts of your life