I turn 50 in 30 days, and I'm unemployed. I'm not going to lie, I'm struggling.

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To start, happy early birthday and it is unfortunate to hear that you are currently unemployed at the moment. I do not know how to begin however I am going to give it a try.

1. Take care of yourself. Find some things that you enjoy doing be it exercise, playing video games or even de clutter your workspace. Before attempting a job hunt you need to care for yourself as that is the first thing people will see.

2. Searching for a job is always the "fun" part. One thing to note DO NOT spend all day looking for a job it will dishearten you. Spend at least a few hours maximum looking then move on to prevent doom-scrolling for jobs. Look on a job site like this one, indeed, monster, linkedin to start. When you find something go directly to the job site whenever possible as that usually has the most current positions for the company vs sending resumes down the endless void. What if the jobs are fake? Well this is why we are taking the extra steps to get some level of authenticity.

3. It sounds like you had a job at some point and need to utilize those acquired skills for your next position. Time to rework the resume for whatever position matches your experience. I would say use something like chatgpt to help rewrite your experience to better match the job description. I have used chatgpt to help with my resume and it told me that my resume needed work and fixed it to better match the job description. If employers are using AI why wouldn't you use it too? I mean now you can enter your resume in the AI program and the job description and it will adjust your resume accordingly.

4. Once you get a response start doing some mock interviews. Again you can use an AI tool if you cannot find a person to practice with. Personally I have used chatgpt to create an interview and give it some answers which in turn returns a response that improves upon the answer given which can then be used for a real interview.

Hopefully that helps. Just remember you need to be a fighter and you are worth it. I am the one thing in life that I can control remember that other people and social media can sway your opinion, but at the end of the day it is you that makes the final say.

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What I would give to be 50 again! I'm a late bloomer in life after an accident that knocked me out of the game for over a decade after multiple surgeries. (I was thrown off a horse at full gallop face-first into a cement barrier. Broke my dang face like a cracked egg 😳 ). But I survived, and I'm so grateful! I missed many years, so it would be a great gift for me to be 50 again. Life is about perspective. Even being unemployed and 50 is way better than many people have it. You've been blessed to have the opportunity to enjoy nature and kindness. To laugh and dream. To live life with a fresh outlook every day. Celebrate how special and unique you are. There's only one you, and the world is a better place because you're here. I wish you a very happy birthday in 30 days! 🥳 🎉 🎁 ❤️

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Happy early Birthday. The struggle is so super real. I’m so sorry this is happening to you. Sometimes there are no words which will come close to comforting. Please take care of yourself, be kind and IF no one is your circle of friends is cheering you on may we here take the liberty to encourage you. While we don’t know you and the words may not be right or there may be no words but “hey” know that everyone who reads your post is thinking about you.
I will be praying for you for this is also all I know to do. Don’t give up, and push through this storm you are in. Keep searching for the next place to work. Stay in the place of faithfulness for the victory remains there.

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