I want to switch my job but don’t feel motivated. I lost my job last March and got a new one in January but it was a lateral move. I have been stuck on the same salary for years. I know I’m highly underpaid at the moment. But Everytime I am ready to work on my job search, I feel really dumb and stupid. Plus I’m dating a guy who is extremely smart and doing very well in his career. His friends are extremely successful too. All this is really overwhelming me. How do I get started?

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I get it - I was looking for a job during the pandemic! Job search requires time and dedication. ( I am not aware of your field). Try to set aside a few hours of your day for job search. Make some progress everyday (even if it's a small progress). Get referrals from your network.

You're definitely smarter than you think! Someone else's success doesn't portray your failure! Don't compare yourself to anyone. It's just that you're in a different phase of life!

Good luck! 👍

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